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How can another year have passed and you still haven’t met the love of your life? You might be thinking you can’t have it all and maybe you’re thinking you are just going to be satisfied with your life the way it is right now. Stop your stinkin’ thinking! There is no reason to settle for status quo when you can have it all!

There are some things you can do right now to get ready for the life of your dreams in 2011. Our new newlywed, Shawn, started her search for Mr. Right by cleaning out her closets and making room for him. That’s right, out with the old so the new can walk in. Now is the perfect time to throw out anything that you haven’t worn or used in the last year and it’s the perfect time to donate what you don’t want, to charity.

Give your home and office a once over and create environments that support your goals.

Next, decide what you want, what you truly want. One of the biggest things that can hold you back from everlasting love is you not being clear about the type of person you want to attract or what you are seeking as the next phase in your professional life. Take time to write your list of who and what you want. Use www.deargodletter.com/bbb to make it easy and fun.

Surround yourself with a visual representation of what you want in your life. Create the vision board you promised yourself you would. Gather your girlfriends together and have a vision board party. We offer a simple kit that includes everything each of you will need to complete yours. Play music, have fun and really celebrate what’s next for you. To get the kits for your party, see our BBB vision board.

As the year comes to a close, write down all of your successes for the year. Commit to doing the BBB work to find your true love in the new year and toast yourself because you are on your way to having it all!

It’s your time to have it all!

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You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Sex and the City opens this weekend!

This is a great time to grab your girlfriends for some good ole fashion Girlie Fun.  The women of Sex in the City are on a constant quest to have it all.

They are all strong women who know what they want and who go after their dreams.  They each have different goals, dreams and personalities but they also have a very important common value, they put their relationships first.  They take time for each other and are there for each other for the good times and bad.

Having these relationships have made them all more successful in their personal romantic relationships as well as their professional lives.  They have all had their ups and downs but they have managed to come through with shining colors.  We know it’s a movie and not real life, but why can’t it be. When you put relationships first you can have the Hollywood movie ending.

Think about the relationships in your life and how they have enhanced your days, months and years.  Relationships are truly what make you rich.  Have fun at the movies and afterward decide what it is you want and go for it.

It’s Your Time to Have it All!

Sometimes, admittedly, it’s nice to be a single girl with a life all her own.

You get to use all the closets, dressers and space in your home the way you want to. You can TIVO whatever you want to watch later and never have to share the remote and television with a sports-aholic. There’s plenty of room for what you love to eat, wear and use.

So why bother with Mr. Right anyway?

Maybe your life is complete right now. Or is it?

How do you really feel when you see a couple romantically sneak a glance at one another, reach out to hold hands as they walk by you, or chit chat in that quiet seductive way over dinner or while waiting for the train?

Do you ever wonder how Mr. Right could really change your life?

Mr. Right is more than just someone who’s a guaranteed dance partner at a gala or someone to take the trash out.

He is the person who adores you – even when you’re blubbering with tears streaming down your beautiful face. He’s the guy who stays up with you all night when you feel sick.

He stands proudly by you, whispering “I love you” and “I’m so proud of you” at just the right moments.

He’s the man who when you see him, your heart really does skip a beat and you feel yourself just melting into his embrace and deep, loving kiss.

Yup! He’s the one that loves you unconditionally and lights up at the very sight of you and sound of you on the telephone.

A life without Mr. Right is like a life without romance…

A life without that very special feeling that only he can really bring about in you.

Think for a moment about what your life would be like with him.

Now take a look around yours.

With him, you can really have it all: the man you’ve dreamed of and the amazing professional career you love.

He really does exist – for every woman.

Not sure how to find him?

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It’s Your Time to Have It All!

We hit the Dallas market by storm with two book signings and a live event at Saks Fifth Avenue with Trish McEvoy make-up artists bringing our the best in each of our guests.

Then it was Los Angeles for the DSWA National Convention.  We met so many amazing people and had a chance to teach people about how to discover what’s important for you and understand your core values then decide what you want by writing your Dear God Letter.

Knowing your values and what you want with boys and business lays the foundation for success.  Sounds easy but we often don’t take the time to actually sit down think about this let alone write it down.  By taking the time to write down your core values and their definitions and by writing down what you want, you have taken the first step in having it all.

If you don’t know how to determine your core values or what you want listen to our free teleworkshop that walks you through the process.  These two exercises will change your life dramatically and improve your relationships with boys and with your business http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

In May we are off to Miami, and later in this week we have an exciting announcement.

Have you ever heard someone suggest to you that the guy you’re dating is “good enough?”

Oftentimes we think that because we’ve found someone who is nice and can take care of us, we should just settle.  Even though we feel like companions more than a couple, at least we’ll have SOMEBODY.

Well!  We say why settle for Mr. Good Enough when you can find Mr. Right??

It’s actually a lot easier to find Mr. Right than to live a life with little to no romantic  spark.  We meet lots of women who say they’d rather be alone than to be bothered with Mr. Good Enough.  But if they really could find Mr. Right…they’d be interested.

We say finding Mr. Right is much easier when you put Boys Before Business.

Preparing yourself to meet him is the key to your success in finding him.

Know what is most important to you – yourself – before you start looking for the perfect match.  Identify and understand what you value most in relationships with others.  Think of the relationships in your life that you love and use these as models to discover what’s most important to you.  Is it Honesty?  Integrity?  Love?  Family? Achievement?

Figure out the essence of the relationships you love and then seek the man who shares these relationship ideals.  Then you’ll have what it takes to build that dream relationship with your dream man.

Knowing what’s important to you is one of the best first steps for meeting Mr. Right.

Finding him really is easier than you think – when you put Boys Before Business.

Want to find your Mr. Right?  Not sure what you value most?  Take 60 minutes and listen to our tele-workshop.  Click Here for details.

Schedule it and listen when it’s convenient for you. Take your first steps to finding Mr. Right right now. What are you waiting for?

It has only been one week since we were in Arizona for our book signing and Girlie Chat, and guess what?  Boys Before Business already has TWO success stories from our event and book tour.  That’s how fast the first steps can work for you!.

After leaving the workshop at Saks Fifth Avenue one of the participants went home finished her Dear God Letter and met a man that seems to fit her list!

While reading the book and getting clear about what she wanted, another fan went out on a date with a co-worker that turned into another date and another and then he asked her to be exclusive.  She said, “the book works!”

Here’s what other attendees have said:

“The principles I learned at the Girlie Chat are applicable to many areas of my life and I can’t wait to get started.”

“What I learned will take my business and personal life to the next level.  I haven’t been this excited in a long time.  I feel I have the tools I need to succeed.

“This concept can revolutionize the way direct sellers build their business”

It truly is your time to have it all!

Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right?

This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year.

Not sure it can really happen for you?
Not certain that you are ready for it?

This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him.

When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you.

You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business.

Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year.

You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year.

Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it all!

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Maybe you are one of those people who just can’t seem to get into the holiday spirit.  You would rather stay inside all day then take part of all the hoopla.  That is perfectly fine.  Just don’t stay home sulking, stay home and be productive.  Use this down time to journal and highlight your years successes.  Write down everything big and small.  Think about your favorite moments of the year, what were you doing?  See if you can find the activities that make you smile.  This is a great exercise to remind you of all the things you have accomplished.

This is also the perfect time to clean your closets and clean out the clutter in your house and make room for new clothes, new opportunities and a new man.  If you are holding on to anything of boyfriends past reflect on why you are holding on to the object then check in with yourself and see how you are feeling and decide to get rid of it.  New door usually only open when old doors close.  Go out and enjoy yourself or read a great romance novel, or go to a chick flick, they can help you visualize the type of relationship you really want.

Above all be yourself and do activities that would comfort your spirit.

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We have heard some great stories about how women have met the men of their dreams during the holiday season because they actually stopped working and started embracing the holiday activities in their area.

Here are some suggestions for how to get out and celebrate the holiday cheer while raising your spirits and looking for your Mr. Right:

1)      Join efforts to feed the hungry in your area. If you enjoy volunteering and if you have an interest in sharing the abundance you have with those less fortunate, donate your time and find activities in your area where you can feed the homeless, elderly, sick or those who can’t afford to provide a delicious meal for themselves and their loved ones this holiday season.  Check with your local food bank and other organizations for information and events.  You never know – you might just meet him while serving mashed potatoes at the soup kitchen while he serves up the turkey with all the trimmings.

2)      Pay attention to invitations to events from organizations and groups you belong to. Instead of passing on the holiday gatherings offered by organizations and networking groups you participate in, take time out to celebrate the season with those you’ve done business with.  Toast a year of great business success and see how your relationships here have served you well.  Take clues from them and put the qualities you enjoy in these relationships into your Dear God Letter to help you describe the one you want to build with the man of your dreams.

3)      Look for flyers and announcements about events and parties at your gym, club, yoga studio or other recreational center. Perhaps there are parties that are available to you as a member of your gym or other exercise clubs.  This is a terrific way to meet men who are also members and like the same activities you do.  Attending these parties can be fun!  You don’t have to stay long.  Grab a girlfriend and make it a great girls’ night out.  You might just meet men you’ve never seen at the gym…until now.

Find ways to get out of the office and out of the house and into the holiday season and spirit.  All work and no fun makes it harder to find him.  Pick one activity you love and go for it!

Your Mr. Right may walk right into your life and light up your holiday spirits this season – and beyond.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

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