Posts Tagged ‘Still Single’

Finding the man of your dreams can sometimes feel like a daunting task.

Sometimes it seems just easier to stay home and be satisfied with what you have.

What we know for sure is you deserve more and can have more!  Charles Schwab said, “A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm.” He’s right!

With enthusiasm you can accomplish anything.  To help you find your inner excitement and enthusiasm for finding the man of your dreams, enroll people to support you who are also on a mission to Have It All.  When you surround yourself with like-minded people, there is an amazing energy and force that can help you get results faster!

If those people aren’t in your life yet, you can find them in our Club BBB – our exclusive membership community where the women-only members offer support and excitement to each other. They can feel they are closer and closer every day to finding and keeping the man of their dreams by receiving the same new information through Club BBB, having someone to talk to who also feel this is important and getting access to resources that make it easier to connect with those people who think like you do.

When you are with like-minded people, finding true love is less daunting and much more fun.

To learn more about Club BBB, how you can enroll as a member and find your like-minded accountability, go to http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/membership.html.

Join with a friend!  It’s even more fun.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right?

This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year.

Not sure it can really happen for you?
Not certain that you are ready for it?

This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him.

When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you.

You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business.

Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year.

You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year.

Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it all!

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Ever hear those stories about women who just meet someone in a parking lot, in line at the bookstore or online and they just click and fall in love?  So often we hear from these women that they just let go of the idea of what Mr. Right looked like and what he had to be like for them and turned their focus on themselves.

All of those ideas you have about the perfect guy for you – his looks, occupation and everything you decided would be just perfect for you – we suggest you let go of them.  If you think of the tall, dark and handsome guy, you may just miss the Mr. Right for you who isn’t tall, has light or no hair and is still handsome nonetheless.

Focus on the relationship you want to have and who you want to be in it.  What will you and your man be doing?  Where will you travel?  What romantic getaway will you be running away to for the weekend?  Will you be hiking in the mountains or swimming in the ocean?  What kind of restaurant will you be toasting in as you celebrate your romance?

Too often when we are looking for Mr. Right, we concentrate so heavily on what he’s going to be like that we get attached to him before we’ve even met him and forget what we’re going be like when we meet him.

Perhaps by holding fast to an ideal look for your Mr. Right, maybe you’ve been sheltering yourself from the real relationship you say you want.  Check this out in your own world.  When you make something so perfect that it’s seemingly impossible to find, you may use this as a mechanism to protect yourself from getting what you say you really want.

In fact, for some women, actually finding Mr. Right is a shocking thought because … what if he really does exist?  What will happen to the lifestyle you know now and perhaps love?

Let go of all the preconceived notions you have about him and how he’ll affect your life.

Enjoy the journey of finding out who you want to be in the relationship you’ve dreamed of.

Set yourself up for the successful relationship you want by getting clear about you and what you want.

Know that you can have it all – the fabulous career and the great romance.

And just let go.

Isn’t now your time to have it all?

So you haven’t found him yet?
Are you thinking there is no use and all the good men are taken?
Are you wondering if it is possible to really have it all?

It is possible and we promise all the good men are not taken there is someone out there for you.  To find him, get back to basics.

Start by reviewing your Dear God Letter and make sure you are crystal clear about what you want.

Next, make sure you have a vision of what your ideal relationship looks like and feels like.  Describe to yourself what it will be like to be with the man you have described.

Believe it is possible and take action by going to new places, meeting new people, telling people who you are looking for.

Make sure your environments support what you want and make sure you have room for him – at home and at work.

Then simply detach.

We know it sounds like a contradiction: focus, focus, focus then detach.  What we mean by detach is be grateful for what you have in your life now, let go of what you want and trust that the Universe will help you.  It might not be in your exact time frame but trust you can Have it All.

Keep thinking about what you are intending to create for your romantic life.  It will happen.  It did for us and it can for you!

It’s Fashion Week!

Are you inspired by the latest fashion and are madly trying to lose weight to fit into what’s out there?

Fashion can be fun but at times it can be frustrating.

Oftentimes, while we look at the models on the runway, we start to compare ourselves to them.

The best way to enjoy fashion is to decide what you like and what looks good on you.   It is not about looking like a model. It’s about wearing a style that brings out your confidence.

Oftentimes we buy things in the hope that it will look good when we lose a few pounds.  This is crazy. It’s more rewarding to be with a man who loves you for who you are.

You can actually look like a model.  What you can learn from Fashion Week is the way the models strut.  They walk with confidence and that is sexy.  And guess what? You can strut too and look just like a model.

What men find most captivating is a woman with self-confidence.  It’s this ability to believe in oneself that is alluring, attractive and intriguing.  When we have this, any woman can strut like a model and engage the attention of men everywhere.

The fashion that fits is the one that brings forth this inner confidence so you too can act like a model in every area of your life and live the life you love.

It’s your time to have it all!

Every year at the holiday season, do you find yourself “the single girl” at the holiday parties amidst others in couples?  Wondering how many more parties you’ll be invited to where you show up as “the single girl” with or without a date?

Maybe this year we can help resolve the catch-22 of being too busy to find the man of your dreams because of your career and finding yourself all alone again with no one beside you at holiday parties and friendly gatherings of good cheer.

You still have time this Fall to find and meet the man of your dreams while working and building your amazing career.

What if you could finish the year strong in both business and your personal romantic life?  Think it can’t be done?  We know.  We were you.  Year after year, holiday after holiday all throughout the Fall.

From Halloween parties and hayrides to Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and the New Year, stop hugging the wall this year and start finding the man of your dreams to hug instead.

It’s easier when you put “Boys Before Business.”

You’re still not too late to find him this year.

Use these 5 simple tips to get you started:

1) Make a list of the top 10 traits that you’d like in a mate.
State these in positive statements.  Use “he does,” “he likes,”,
“I like it when he…,” or “he will” statements.

2) Next, look at your calendar.  When will you make time in your
busy schedule for him?

3) Now, decide if you are willing to put “Boys Before Business”
and if you are ready to meet the man of your dreams.

4) Put forth the energy, the belief and the faith that you too can still
find him this year.

5) Believe it’s possible for you to meet him.

Regardless of what others think or say, it’s your time to have it all!

Sometimes we make excuses to ourselves as we search for our own Prince Charming and “have it all” lifestyle.

We say to ourselves: I need to work out more first; I want to change jobs; or even, asking ourselves: “Who’s going to be dating during this economy?”

It’s interesting, isn’t it? How we put out reasons why it’s just not possible for us to find and meet him.

We want to give you reasons why now is always the perfect time to find him – bad economy or not.

The truth is most people – men and women – want to meet that special someone to share their love and lives with.

Oftentimes, we are the ones who count ourselves or others out by making up and disqualifying any chance of us meeting him.

We’ll grab on to any excuse.  All we’re really doing is putting off that which we said we wanted.

Believe it, there are a bunch of reasons why it’s totally possible for you to find and meet him in any economy.

Think about it:  Some of the longest marriages you might know of may have gotten their start during the Depression era, one of the worst economies the U.S. has ever experienced.

In fact, my grandparents on both sides met during the Depression era.

On my Dad’s side, they met when my grandfather barely had $5 back then.  On my Mom’s side, my grandfather had about $35.

They were both happily married for over 60 years to the woman they loved and fell in love with during one of the most challenging economic times we’ve seen in the U.S.

You see, you can find, meet and keep him in any situation, circumstance or condition – or economy.

If they could do it then, we can do it now.

As the cliché goes:  Love really does conquer all.

It’s your time to have it all!

When you look at your calendar, home and activities this week and especially for this weekend, what’s the biggest priority you see?

Remember at the beginning of the year when you said that this was it – this was your year to meet the man of your dreams and have a real loving and supportive relationship?

Take an inventory of what you’ve been doing and the actions you’ve been taking to find him.

Have you:

·             Identified and defined your core values

·             Written your Dear God Letter and clearly articulated your Must Have, Would Like and Dream Traits

·             Told family and friends you are ready to be introduced to the men who match your Dear God Letter

·             Changed your activity schedule to workout when more men are at the gym or taking yoga or pilates classes

·             Set up your profile with the dating service of your choice on or offline and shared your Dear God Letter traits with them

If you haven’t been prioritizing your quest for a relationship or feel as though perhaps you thought you were prioritizing this but have found that you’re really not, now is the best time to re-evaluate, make some new choices and take different actions to make the romantic relationship you want a priority.

As we like to say, put Boys Before Business – even before you get the boy.  By putting the activities and actions around finding your dream man first, you’ll begin practicing the Boys Before Business philosophy before you meet him.  This will serve you well in the long run so you can make adjustments to your schedule now and experience the magic putting Boys Before Business creates.

If one of your greatest dreams and life experiences is to have a great romantic relationship, reprioritize your activities and put your relationship first.

You’ll get great results and discover that now really is your time to have it all!

Summer’s almost over.  If you still haven’t met him, there are still fun ways to find him and insightful ways to prepare yourself to meet him.

Finding him is a process.  Look at the people you’ve met.  What did you like about them?  And what would you rather change?

Evaluate each relationship and make this part of your process.  Observe and chat with couples you admire.  If you know them, talk with them about what makes their relationship great.  Whether you know them or not, notice what they do, how they interact with each other and identify what you seem attracted to in their relationship.

Are these qualities in your Dear God Letter?  What about in your vision you’ve been writing about?

Take 5 minutes each day to read your letter and visualize the relationship you want to be a part of.  This process helps you get clearer and clearer so when he does show up, you can recognize him almost instantly.  You can also describe clearly the relationship you want build with him.

Do your best to not compare yourself to other people in their relationships.  Instead, focus on you and compare yourself to how much you have grown from the last relationship and what you have learned from your own experiences.

Be honest with yourself: determine if you are moving forward or making the same mistakes.  If you find that you are re-creating the same relationship, it just may be time to do something different.

To find the right person, you have to make finding him a priority and put Boys Before Business.  It will take time and effort – and when you do, it will take you right into the arms of the man of your dreams.

We’ve noticed that for years many women have struggled to find their Prince Charming and have often felt that this part of their lives has eluded them. We also noticed there were some common denominators with women who are having difficulty finding the one.

Whether you’ve reached that point of saying “It will never happen for me,” or “I just wish someone could tell me what to do to get it right,” perhaps now is the time to be aware of these common pitfalls:

• Women don’t define what they want in their Prince Charming – they often take on whoever comes along.
• Women feel like they’ll make room for him in their lives when he shows up instead of focusing on preparing their lives to have both a great relationship AND a brilliant career.
• Women fill up their schedules to be busy and feel important and loved.
• Women were taught there is plenty of time to find romance. Focus on your career first and make sure you can take care of yourself.

So what can you do to avoid making theses mistakes?  If you are reading this thinking, “That’s me!”  Maybe it’s time for some helpful hints to steer you in the direction of how to really find Prince Charming. It’s not like years ago someone offered you a class like home economics or shop where you learned the do’s and don’ts for finding Prince Charming. But there are some easy tips to start working with to get this right so you can find him.  It’s still possible.  Here’s a few to get you started:

1)    Decide what qualities the men you date must have before you meet them.  This will make it easier to recognize whether the men you date are just one time dates or potentially so much more.

2)    Understand what’s important to you in a relationship and get clear about how you want to be treated in a romantic relationship. Remember: being vulnerable is good.  If you look like you don’t need or want him, in his eyes — you don’t.

3)    Pick a day on your weekly schedule that you leave open to do something new and meet new people.

4)    Look around your house.  Is it “boy friendly”?  Is there room for him in your house?  We are proud of you for taking care of yourself, being independent strong women and creating a great environment for you.  But is it just that — for you? Or would he find your home welcoming too?

These simple tips and techniques will help demystify how to find Prince Charming and start you on the steps to finally meeting him.

We know it’s been a long road.

It’s about to pay off.

You can really have both – your brilliant career and a fulfilling romantic relationship.

To learn more and take a few more simple steps, join us on our upcoming tele-workshop  Click here to register today http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

It’s your time to have it all,

Kim and Jen