Posts Tagged ‘Prince Charming’

You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Ali Fedotowsky did it! She put Boys Before Business in front of a national television audience and it paid off. Big Time!

She focused on finding her true love – and find him she did.

Now we can’t wait to watch Ali’s career soar as a result of her rockin’ romance with Roberto.

Meanwhile, on Sunday, Patti Stanger stood strong with her Must Have Traits and called off her engagement with long time boyfriend, Andy Friedman. She wants to have children, she said in People.com’s Sunday article, that’s a dealbreaker for her.

We applaud Patti’s decision to stick to the traits that are most important to her in her relationship.

We wish her much happiness as she seeks her real Mr. Right.

Reminder: now is a great time for Patti to review and revise her Dear God Letter. Is it time to revise yours?

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Finding the right man can be scary.  You have built a life for yourself and you are happy and the thought of change can be scary.  Doubt can creep into your mind quickly raising questions about what if it doesn’t work out.  Again think of your language, and start thinking about what if it DOES work out.

Sometimes it seems easier to go it alone, why bother at all with finding Mr. Right.  Finding him might mean you might have to compromise, change your schedule, open up, take a risk and what if you waste your time and he’s not the one?

If you have been single for awhile chances are you are content.  You have built a life that suits you and you are happy so why rock the boat.  Why take the chance at possible heartache and what if you spend all this time with someone who turns out to be Mr. Wrong, then you have wasted valuable time.

Instead of thinking about all the things that scare you, go back to when you were a little girl and think about how you envisioned your life and your relationships.  Did you picture your life holding hands with the man of your dreams, traveling to exotic place, growing old and swinging on the front porch?  All those dreams are still possible.  It’s up to you to believe in them again and take action.

Tell us what scares you the most about finding the man of your dreams in this weeks poll http://bit.ly/aoTUIo

Are you scared because…

1) It might not work out & I wasted my time
2) Your lifestyle will have to change
3) You are set in your ways
4) You’re afraid of making a mistake
5) You’ll have to compromise

Anna Paquin, the star of HBO’s True Blood and Academy Award winner says it best in her interview in the July issue of Self Magazine. “Fitting somebody else’s model doesn’t make you happier. You’ll live a full and happy if you pursue things you think are important and live the life you want to live.” We couldn’t have said it better ourselves.

Boys Before Business wants you to live the life you want to live. It is time to know what you want and be confident in getting it.

When asked if she was happy about her weight, Anna said, ” I don’t know too many women who are 100 percent happy, but I’m the happiest I’ve been. For me, it has more to do with being fulfilled in other areas of life, not how many hours I’m at the gym. If you’re not happy in other areas of your life, you’re not going to be happy with the way you look.”

We always say don’t stop looking for Mr. Right, the right job or business relationship just because you want to lose those extra ten pounds. Go create your own happiness now and get fulfilled with the things you like to do so you can be happy and attract the person you want.

Men love happy confident women. Find what makes you happy.

Need help determining what really does make you happy? Join us for an eye-opening free telephone class about vision boards. They can help you visualize the life you want to live – one that’s filled with happiness, joy and the love you are seeking.

Click here to sign up for the call now and join us on Tuesday, June 29th at 5:30pm PT: http://bit.ly/cOIFbb

From Kim Mylls, Co-Creator of Boys Before Business

There were ten of us in a circle on the last day of a week long Jack Canfield event one summer not too long ago.

Jen and I looked across the circle and something clicked.  I liked what she said. She liked what I was saying, so much so that mid-sentence Jen blurted out, “I’d like you to be my accountability partner.”  I said yes instantly, not even knowing what she wanted in a partner.

What happened that week changed everything for me and our partnership was the icing on the cake.  Together we wrote a book and are now on a mission to empower millions of women.  The book has been just the beginning.

The results of that week were beyond any of my expectations.  Here’s the short list of what happened:

• I met the man of my dreams shortly after that event. Three months later we were engaged and nine months later we were married
• I fulfilled a life long dream of writing a book
• I created another business with a person I met at the event
• I improved every relationship in my life
• I used the same tools and techniques in my everyday business and was able to teach and train and inspire my team to reach their goals

What are your dreams?  Have you given up on them?

What haven’t you been able to achieve on your own?

What’s stopping you?

Who is in your circle of influence?  Are you spending time with people who lift you up or bring you down?

If you are serious about achieving your dreams, you have to go to this event.

Click Here to see the event.

Of the 400 people who were there, I stay personally connected with more than 100. Each of them have done things that they never thought possible and have made their lives extraordinary.  I know I can reach out to any one of them at any time and get the support I need.  Now that is powerful!

Do what you can to go to this event.  Make any sacrifices you have to so you can attend. This week will change your life for the better.  It was the best investment I could make for both my personal and professional life.

You are worth it and you deserve to have it all!

Sex and the City opens this weekend!

This is a great time to grab your girlfriends for some good ole fashion Girlie Fun.  The women of Sex in the City are on a constant quest to have it all.

They are all strong women who know what they want and who go after their dreams.  They each have different goals, dreams and personalities but they also have a very important common value, they put their relationships first.  They take time for each other and are there for each other for the good times and bad.

Having these relationships have made them all more successful in their personal romantic relationships as well as their professional lives.  They have all had their ups and downs but they have managed to come through with shining colors.  We know it’s a movie and not real life, but why can’t it be. When you put relationships first you can have the Hollywood movie ending.

Think about the relationships in your life and how they have enhanced your days, months and years.  Relationships are truly what make you rich.  Have fun at the movies and afterward decide what it is you want and go for it.

It’s Your Time to Have it All!

Sometimes, admittedly, it’s nice to be a single girl with a life all her own.

You get to use all the closets, dressers and space in your home the way you want to. You can TIVO whatever you want to watch later and never have to share the remote and television with a sports-aholic. There’s plenty of room for what you love to eat, wear and use.

So why bother with Mr. Right anyway?

Maybe your life is complete right now. Or is it?

How do you really feel when you see a couple romantically sneak a glance at one another, reach out to hold hands as they walk by you, or chit chat in that quiet seductive way over dinner or while waiting for the train?

Do you ever wonder how Mr. Right could really change your life?

Mr. Right is more than just someone who’s a guaranteed dance partner at a gala or someone to take the trash out.

He is the person who adores you – even when you’re blubbering with tears streaming down your beautiful face. He’s the guy who stays up with you all night when you feel sick.

He stands proudly by you, whispering “I love you” and “I’m so proud of you” at just the right moments.

He’s the man who when you see him, your heart really does skip a beat and you feel yourself just melting into his embrace and deep, loving kiss.

Yup! He’s the one that loves you unconditionally and lights up at the very sight of you and sound of you on the telephone.

A life without Mr. Right is like a life without romance…

A life without that very special feeling that only he can really bring about in you.

Think for a moment about what your life would be like with him.

Now take a look around yours.

With him, you can really have it all: the man you’ve dreamed of and the amazing professional career you love.

He really does exist – for every woman.

Not sure how to find him?

Let us show you how:  http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/membership.html

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

We hit the Dallas market by storm with two book signings and a live event at Saks Fifth Avenue with Trish McEvoy make-up artists bringing our the best in each of our guests.

Then it was Los Angeles for the DSWA National Convention.  We met so many amazing people and had a chance to teach people about how to discover what’s important for you and understand your core values then decide what you want by writing your Dear God Letter.

Knowing your values and what you want with boys and business lays the foundation for success.  Sounds easy but we often don’t take the time to actually sit down think about this let alone write it down.  By taking the time to write down your core values and their definitions and by writing down what you want, you have taken the first step in having it all.

If you don’t know how to determine your core values or what you want listen to our free teleworkshop that walks you through the process.  These two exercises will change your life dramatically and improve your relationships with boys and with your business http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

In May we are off to Miami, and later in this week we have an exciting announcement.

Finding Mr. Right while at the same time enjoying your career can sometimes seem like an impossible task. Most single women have wondered at one time or another “Can I have both, is possible to have it all?”

The good news is, yes you can have it all. The better news is, Boys Before Business has a proven system of success to help you.

Having it all just got easier. We are giving you a roadmap to success all you have to do is say yes to your journey and let us walk you through our steps. We know they work because they have worked for us and for other women. If you follow our system you can’t fail. So decide if you are going to take that leap of faith and do the work. Yes there is work. You will first prepare to meet the right man.

There are a number of components to preparing, everything from making time to cleaning our your closets and even understanding what you want. The next phase is building the relationship. This means learning how to communicate and compromise and gain more clarity.

Then the final phase is being a dream team together and applying all you have learned in your personal relationship to build a better career. Simple yes, not always easy, but definitely worth it!

If you are in Dallas then learn more on how our system can work for you by joining as at one of our three events April 23-25th.

• Friday Barnes and Noble at Lincoln Park at 6:00 pm
• Saturday Saks Fifth Avenue at the Dallas Galleria 10:00 am
• Sunday Barnes and Noble at Preston & Park Plana TX 3:00 pm

If you are not in Dallas start your Boys Before Journey by taking 60 minutes and listen to our teleworkshop designed to give you the first steps to having it all. http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

Look for us in a city near you. http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/events.html.