Posts Tagged ‘Meet the “One”’

Starting a New Year is always exciting.  It is the time when you allow yourself to dream again. You make resolutions and goals and feel inspired.

Then after a week, reality sets in and it seems you are back to the grind.  Your dreams start to fade away as you get busy with daily activities. Before you know it, months have gone by and the inspiration and excitement you feel at the start of the New Year is gone.

Don’t let this happen to you!

Every day take two minutes to read your goals and visualize what achieving them feels like.  Think about the life you want to create.  Write down one action step you could do to help move you in the direction of your dreams.  In five minutes a day, you could feel that same inspiration and excitement.

Five minutes a day turns into 1,825 minutes which turns into 76 days!

Imagine what you can accomplish!

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Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right?

This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year.

Not sure it can really happen for you?
Not certain that you are ready for it?

This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him.

When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you.

You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business.

Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year.

You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year.

Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it all!

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Maybe you are one of those people who just can’t seem to get into the holiday spirit.  You would rather stay inside all day then take part of all the hoopla.  That is perfectly fine.  Just don’t stay home sulking, stay home and be productive.  Use this down time to journal and highlight your years successes.  Write down everything big and small.  Think about your favorite moments of the year, what were you doing?  See if you can find the activities that make you smile.  This is a great exercise to remind you of all the things you have accomplished.

This is also the perfect time to clean your closets and clean out the clutter in your house and make room for new clothes, new opportunities and a new man.  If you are holding on to anything of boyfriends past reflect on why you are holding on to the object then check in with yourself and see how you are feeling and decide to get rid of it.  New door usually only open when old doors close.  Go out and enjoy yourself or read a great romance novel, or go to a chick flick, they can help you visualize the type of relationship you really want.

Above all be yourself and do activities that would comfort your spirit.

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Ever hear those stories about women who just meet someone in a parking lot, in line at the bookstore or online and they just click and fall in love?  So often we hear from these women that they just let go of the idea of what Mr. Right looked like and what he had to be like for them and turned their focus on themselves.

All of those ideas you have about the perfect guy for you – his looks, occupation and everything you decided would be just perfect for you – we suggest you let go of them.  If you think of the tall, dark and handsome guy, you may just miss the Mr. Right for you who isn’t tall, has light or no hair and is still handsome nonetheless.

Focus on the relationship you want to have and who you want to be in it.  What will you and your man be doing?  Where will you travel?  What romantic getaway will you be running away to for the weekend?  Will you be hiking in the mountains or swimming in the ocean?  What kind of restaurant will you be toasting in as you celebrate your romance?

Too often when we are looking for Mr. Right, we concentrate so heavily on what he’s going to be like that we get attached to him before we’ve even met him and forget what we’re going be like when we meet him.

Perhaps by holding fast to an ideal look for your Mr. Right, maybe you’ve been sheltering yourself from the real relationship you say you want.  Check this out in your own world.  When you make something so perfect that it’s seemingly impossible to find, you may use this as a mechanism to protect yourself from getting what you say you really want.

In fact, for some women, actually finding Mr. Right is a shocking thought because … what if he really does exist?  What will happen to the lifestyle you know now and perhaps love?

Let go of all the preconceived notions you have about him and how he’ll affect your life.

Enjoy the journey of finding out who you want to be in the relationship you’ve dreamed of.

Set yourself up for the successful relationship you want by getting clear about you and what you want.

Know that you can have it all – the fabulous career and the great romance.

And just let go.

Isn’t now your time to have it all?

Understanding how you think and operate in the world gives you the power to approach the dating scene and your relationship from a more centered and focused perspective.

Once you understand what you want, how you want to feel and how you want to be in a relationship, you can start your search for Mr. Right in much more powerful way.  The same principles apply for finding your dream career.  The key to manifesting is to understand what you want first and then go seek what it is you want.  Accept nothing less.

Being centered and focused on finding Mr. Right and making this a priority will have a huge impact on all areas of your life.  It is when you are clear that magic starts to happen in all aspects of your life.

By informing others in your world about who you are, what’s important to you, how you approach the world and most importantly – what you want, you will provide them with the tools and details for how to help you get what you need to succeed.

It all begins by defining your values, being clear about the relationship and career you want to have, and articulating that clearly to others so they can help you get it.

“It’s Your Time to Have It All!”

Kim and Jen

So you haven’t found him yet?
Are you thinking there is no use and all the good men are taken?
Are you wondering if it is possible to really have it all?

It is possible and we promise all the good men are not taken there is someone out there for you.  To find him, get back to basics.

Start by reviewing your Dear God Letter and make sure you are crystal clear about what you want.

Next, make sure you have a vision of what your ideal relationship looks like and feels like.  Describe to yourself what it will be like to be with the man you have described.

Believe it is possible and take action by going to new places, meeting new people, telling people who you are looking for.

Make sure your environments support what you want and make sure you have room for him – at home and at work.

Then simply detach.

We know it sounds like a contradiction: focus, focus, focus then detach.  What we mean by detach is be grateful for what you have in your life now, let go of what you want and trust that the Universe will help you.  It might not be in your exact time frame but trust you can Have it All.

Keep thinking about what you are intending to create for your romantic life.  It will happen.  It did for us and it can for you!

It’s Fashion Week!

Are you inspired by the latest fashion and are madly trying to lose weight to fit into what’s out there?

Fashion can be fun but at times it can be frustrating.

Oftentimes, while we look at the models on the runway, we start to compare ourselves to them.

The best way to enjoy fashion is to decide what you like and what looks good on you.   It is not about looking like a model. It’s about wearing a style that brings out your confidence.

Oftentimes we buy things in the hope that it will look good when we lose a few pounds.  This is crazy. It’s more rewarding to be with a man who loves you for who you are.

You can actually look like a model.  What you can learn from Fashion Week is the way the models strut.  They walk with confidence and that is sexy.  And guess what? You can strut too and look just like a model.

What men find most captivating is a woman with self-confidence.  It’s this ability to believe in oneself that is alluring, attractive and intriguing.  When we have this, any woman can strut like a model and engage the attention of men everywhere.

The fashion that fits is the one that brings forth this inner confidence so you too can act like a model in every area of your life and live the life you love.

It’s your time to have it all!

Sometimes we make excuses to ourselves as we search for our own Prince Charming and “have it all” lifestyle.

We say to ourselves: I need to work out more first; I want to change jobs; or even, asking ourselves: “Who’s going to be dating during this economy?”

It’s interesting, isn’t it? How we put out reasons why it’s just not possible for us to find and meet him.

We want to give you reasons why now is always the perfect time to find him – bad economy or not.

The truth is most people – men and women – want to meet that special someone to share their love and lives with.

Oftentimes, we are the ones who count ourselves or others out by making up and disqualifying any chance of us meeting him.

We’ll grab on to any excuse.  All we’re really doing is putting off that which we said we wanted.

Believe it, there are a bunch of reasons why it’s totally possible for you to find and meet him in any economy.

Think about it:  Some of the longest marriages you might know of may have gotten their start during the Depression era, one of the worst economies the U.S. has ever experienced.

In fact, my grandparents on both sides met during the Depression era.

On my Dad’s side, they met when my grandfather barely had $5 back then.  On my Mom’s side, my grandfather had about $35.

They were both happily married for over 60 years to the woman they loved and fell in love with during one of the most challenging economic times we’ve seen in the U.S.

You see, you can find, meet and keep him in any situation, circumstance or condition – or economy.

If they could do it then, we can do it now.

As the cliché goes:  Love really does conquer all.

It’s your time to have it all!

When you look at your calendar, home and activities this week and especially for this weekend, what’s the biggest priority you see?

Remember at the beginning of the year when you said that this was it – this was your year to meet the man of your dreams and have a real loving and supportive relationship?

Take an inventory of what you’ve been doing and the actions you’ve been taking to find him.

Have you:

·             Identified and defined your core values

·             Written your Dear God Letter and clearly articulated your Must Have, Would Like and Dream Traits

·             Told family and friends you are ready to be introduced to the men who match your Dear God Letter

·             Changed your activity schedule to workout when more men are at the gym or taking yoga or pilates classes

·             Set up your profile with the dating service of your choice on or offline and shared your Dear God Letter traits with them

If you haven’t been prioritizing your quest for a relationship or feel as though perhaps you thought you were prioritizing this but have found that you’re really not, now is the best time to re-evaluate, make some new choices and take different actions to make the romantic relationship you want a priority.

As we like to say, put Boys Before Business – even before you get the boy.  By putting the activities and actions around finding your dream man first, you’ll begin practicing the Boys Before Business philosophy before you meet him.  This will serve you well in the long run so you can make adjustments to your schedule now and experience the magic putting Boys Before Business creates.

If one of your greatest dreams and life experiences is to have a great romantic relationship, reprioritize your activities and put your relationship first.

You’ll get great results and discover that now really is your time to have it all!

All of the tools you have been using to find the man of your dreams can be used to have your dream career.  Write a Dear God Letter for your dream job or write one for what you want to change in your current professional life.  Get really clear about what you want.  Visualize it daily.  At the same time, clean up your office environment.  Make room for new opportunities.  The techniques you are using to find your dream man can also be used to find your dream client or dream business partner.

Boys Before Business is about putting your relationship first.  You can follow this same philosophy in business.  Put your work relationships first.  Make sure you connect with your clients and colleagues.  Keep your communication clear and stay focused on your vision.  When you go to new places to find your man, use your adventures as an opportunity to meet new people for your business as well.