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Finding the right man can be scary.  You have built a life for yourself and you are happy and the thought of change can be scary.  Doubt can creep into your mind quickly raising questions about what if it doesn’t work out.  Again think of your language, and start thinking about what if it DOES work out.

Sometimes it seems easier to go it alone, why bother at all with finding Mr. Right.  Finding him might mean you might have to compromise, change your schedule, open up, take a risk and what if you waste your time and he’s not the one?

If you have been single for awhile chances are you are content.  You have built a life that suits you and you are happy so why rock the boat.  Why take the chance at possible heartache and what if you spend all this time with someone who turns out to be Mr. Wrong, then you have wasted valuable time.

Instead of thinking about all the things that scare you, go back to when you were a little girl and think about how you envisioned your life and your relationships.  Did you picture your life holding hands with the man of your dreams, traveling to exotic place, growing old and swinging on the front porch?  All those dreams are still possible.  It’s up to you to believe in them again and take action.

Tell us what scares you the most about finding the man of your dreams in this weeks poll http://bit.ly/aoTUIo

Are you scared because…

1) It might not work out & I wasted my time
2) Your lifestyle will have to change
3) You are set in your ways
4) You’re afraid of making a mistake
5) You’ll have to compromise

Finding the man of your dreams can sometimes feel like a daunting task.

Sometimes it seems just easier to stay home and be satisfied with what you have.

What we know for sure is you deserve more and can have more!  Charles Schwab said, “A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm.” He’s right!

With enthusiasm you can accomplish anything.  To help you find your inner excitement and enthusiasm for finding the man of your dreams, enroll people to support you who are also on a mission to Have It All.  When you surround yourself with like-minded people, there is an amazing energy and force that can help you get results faster!

If those people aren’t in your life yet, you can find them in our Club BBB – our exclusive membership community where the women-only members offer support and excitement to each other. They can feel they are closer and closer every day to finding and keeping the man of their dreams by receiving the same new information through Club BBB, having someone to talk to who also feel this is important and getting access to resources that make it easier to connect with those people who think like you do.

When you are with like-minded people, finding true love is less daunting and much more fun.

To learn more about Club BBB, how you can enroll as a member and find your like-minded accountability, go to http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/membership.html.

Join with a friend!  It’s even more fun.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right?

This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year.

Not sure it can really happen for you?
Not certain that you are ready for it?

This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him.

When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you.

You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business.

Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year.

You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year.

Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it all!

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It’s Fashion Week!

Are you inspired by the latest fashion and are madly trying to lose weight to fit into what’s out there?

Fashion can be fun but at times it can be frustrating.

Oftentimes, while we look at the models on the runway, we start to compare ourselves to them.

The best way to enjoy fashion is to decide what you like and what looks good on you.   It is not about looking like a model. It’s about wearing a style that brings out your confidence.

Oftentimes we buy things in the hope that it will look good when we lose a few pounds.  This is crazy. It’s more rewarding to be with a man who loves you for who you are.

You can actually look like a model.  What you can learn from Fashion Week is the way the models strut.  They walk with confidence and that is sexy.  And guess what? You can strut too and look just like a model.

What men find most captivating is a woman with self-confidence.  It’s this ability to believe in oneself that is alluring, attractive and intriguing.  When we have this, any woman can strut like a model and engage the attention of men everywhere.

The fashion that fits is the one that brings forth this inner confidence so you too can act like a model in every area of your life and live the life you love.

It’s your time to have it all!

Every year at the holiday season, do you find yourself “the single girl” at the holiday parties amidst others in couples?  Wondering how many more parties you’ll be invited to where you show up as “the single girl” with or without a date?

Maybe this year we can help resolve the catch-22 of being too busy to find the man of your dreams because of your career and finding yourself all alone again with no one beside you at holiday parties and friendly gatherings of good cheer.

You still have time this Fall to find and meet the man of your dreams while working and building your amazing career.

What if you could finish the year strong in both business and your personal romantic life?  Think it can’t be done?  We know.  We were you.  Year after year, holiday after holiday all throughout the Fall.

From Halloween parties and hayrides to Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and the New Year, stop hugging the wall this year and start finding the man of your dreams to hug instead.

It’s easier when you put “Boys Before Business.”

You’re still not too late to find him this year.

Use these 5 simple tips to get you started:

1) Make a list of the top 10 traits that you’d like in a mate.
State these in positive statements.  Use “he does,” “he likes,”,
“I like it when he…,” or “he will” statements.

2) Next, look at your calendar.  When will you make time in your
busy schedule for him?

3) Now, decide if you are willing to put “Boys Before Business”
and if you are ready to meet the man of your dreams.

4) Put forth the energy, the belief and the faith that you too can still
find him this year.

5) Believe it’s possible for you to meet him.

Regardless of what others think or say, it’s your time to have it all!

When you look at your calendar, home and activities this week and especially for this weekend, what’s the biggest priority you see?

Remember at the beginning of the year when you said that this was it – this was your year to meet the man of your dreams and have a real loving and supportive relationship?

Take an inventory of what you’ve been doing and the actions you’ve been taking to find him.

Have you:

·             Identified and defined your core values

·             Written your Dear God Letter and clearly articulated your Must Have, Would Like and Dream Traits

·             Told family and friends you are ready to be introduced to the men who match your Dear God Letter

·             Changed your activity schedule to workout when more men are at the gym or taking yoga or pilates classes

·             Set up your profile with the dating service of your choice on or offline and shared your Dear God Letter traits with them

If you haven’t been prioritizing your quest for a relationship or feel as though perhaps you thought you were prioritizing this but have found that you’re really not, now is the best time to re-evaluate, make some new choices and take different actions to make the romantic relationship you want a priority.

As we like to say, put Boys Before Business – even before you get the boy.  By putting the activities and actions around finding your dream man first, you’ll begin practicing the Boys Before Business philosophy before you meet him.  This will serve you well in the long run so you can make adjustments to your schedule now and experience the magic putting Boys Before Business creates.

If one of your greatest dreams and life experiences is to have a great romantic relationship, reprioritize your activities and put your relationship first.

You’ll get great results and discover that now really is your time to have it all!

All of the tools you have been using to find the man of your dreams can be used to have your dream career.  Write a Dear God Letter for your dream job or write one for what you want to change in your current professional life.  Get really clear about what you want.  Visualize it daily.  At the same time, clean up your office environment.  Make room for new opportunities.  The techniques you are using to find your dream man can also be used to find your dream client or dream business partner.

Boys Before Business is about putting your relationship first.  You can follow this same philosophy in business.  Put your work relationships first.  Make sure you connect with your clients and colleagues.  Keep your communication clear and stay focused on your vision.  When you go to new places to find your man, use your adventures as an opportunity to meet new people for your business as well.

As summer winds down, you may be starting to get the feeling that it’s too late – too late to take that much needed time off, too late to rearrange your home and make those adjustments to your office that you planned to do while it was quieter during the summer, and even too late for Love.

Perhaps this is one of the big obstacles you continually find in your way – that feeling of it’s always “too late.”

We beg to differ!  In fact, it’s never too late – especially for Love.  Life is a journey, you’ve heard this before.  So is Love…it’s a journey too.  Everything you experience in the relationships you have contribute to your understanding and creation of the romantic relationship you really want to have and enjoy.

So what if you can count the number of relationships you’ve had on more than two hands!  It’s not a contest or a race.  It’s really about learning what the right relationship is for you – and who your Prince Charming really is.

To know, you’ve gotta get out there.  To get out there with a head-start, it’s easier to know what you don’t want, because of what you’ve experienced before.  Have you heard yourself say, “I don’t want to date that kind of man again,” or “I don’t want to go through that again.”

We suggest as a better head-start, focus your attention on what you do want.  Turn those “don’ts” into what you do want him to do, be and share with you.  Dream of the relationship you’ve always want to have.  Make this the time in your life when you are ready.

It’s never too late for Love.

It’s just a matter of timing.

And we know… it’s your time to have it all.

Summer’s almost over.  If you still haven’t met him, there are still fun ways to find him and insightful ways to prepare yourself to meet him.

Finding him is a process.  Look at the people you’ve met.  What did you like about them?  And what would you rather change?

Evaluate each relationship and make this part of your process.  Observe and chat with couples you admire.  If you know them, talk with them about what makes their relationship great.  Whether you know them or not, notice what they do, how they interact with each other and identify what you seem attracted to in their relationship.

Are these qualities in your Dear God Letter?  What about in your vision you’ve been writing about?

Take 5 minutes each day to read your letter and visualize the relationship you want to be a part of.  This process helps you get clearer and clearer so when he does show up, you can recognize him almost instantly.  You can also describe clearly the relationship you want build with him.

Do your best to not compare yourself to other people in their relationships.  Instead, focus on you and compare yourself to how much you have grown from the last relationship and what you have learned from your own experiences.

Be honest with yourself: determine if you are moving forward or making the same mistakes.  If you find that you are re-creating the same relationship, it just may be time to do something different.

To find the right person, you have to make finding him a priority and put Boys Before Business.  It will take time and effort – and when you do, it will take you right into the arms of the man of your dreams.

We’ve noticed that for years many women have struggled to find their Prince Charming and have often felt that this part of their lives has eluded them. We also noticed there were some common denominators with women who are having difficulty finding the one.

Whether you’ve reached that point of saying “It will never happen for me,” or “I just wish someone could tell me what to do to get it right,” perhaps now is the time to be aware of these common pitfalls:

• Women don’t define what they want in their Prince Charming – they often take on whoever comes along.
• Women feel like they’ll make room for him in their lives when he shows up instead of focusing on preparing their lives to have both a great relationship AND a brilliant career.
• Women fill up their schedules to be busy and feel important and loved.
• Women were taught there is plenty of time to find romance. Focus on your career first and make sure you can take care of yourself.

So what can you do to avoid making theses mistakes?  If you are reading this thinking, “That’s me!”  Maybe it’s time for some helpful hints to steer you in the direction of how to really find Prince Charming. It’s not like years ago someone offered you a class like home economics or shop where you learned the do’s and don’ts for finding Prince Charming. But there are some easy tips to start working with to get this right so you can find him.  It’s still possible.  Here’s a few to get you started:

1)    Decide what qualities the men you date must have before you meet them.  This will make it easier to recognize whether the men you date are just one time dates or potentially so much more.

2)    Understand what’s important to you in a relationship and get clear about how you want to be treated in a romantic relationship. Remember: being vulnerable is good.  If you look like you don’t need or want him, in his eyes — you don’t.

3)    Pick a day on your weekly schedule that you leave open to do something new and meet new people.

4)    Look around your house.  Is it “boy friendly”?  Is there room for him in your house?  We are proud of you for taking care of yourself, being independent strong women and creating a great environment for you.  But is it just that — for you? Or would he find your home welcoming too?

These simple tips and techniques will help demystify how to find Prince Charming and start you on the steps to finally meeting him.

We know it’s been a long road.

It’s about to pay off.

You can really have both – your brilliant career and a fulfilling romantic relationship.

To learn more and take a few more simple steps, join us on our upcoming tele-workshop  Click here to register today http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

It’s your time to have it all,

Kim and Jen