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You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Finding the man of your dreams can sometimes feel like a daunting task.

Sometimes it seems just easier to stay home and be satisfied with what you have.

What we know for sure is you deserve more and can have more!  Charles Schwab said, “A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm.” He’s right!

With enthusiasm you can accomplish anything.  To help you find your inner excitement and enthusiasm for finding the man of your dreams, enroll people to support you who are also on a mission to Have It All.  When you surround yourself with like-minded people, there is an amazing energy and force that can help you get results faster!

If those people aren’t in your life yet, you can find them in our Club BBB – our exclusive membership community where the women-only members offer support and excitement to each other. They can feel they are closer and closer every day to finding and keeping the man of their dreams by receiving the same new information through Club BBB, having someone to talk to who also feel this is important and getting access to resources that make it easier to connect with those people who think like you do.

When you are with like-minded people, finding true love is less daunting and much more fun.

To learn more about Club BBB, how you can enroll as a member and find your like-minded accountability, go to http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/membership.html.

Join with a friend!  It’s even more fun.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

How much time do you spend each week developing and cultivating the relationship of your dreams?

Don’t have it yet?

How much time are you spending getting ready for it?

Relationships require time and attention, just like every other part of your life.  Just like a beautiful flower, you have to care for, feed and water your desire to find Mr. Right so your dream relationship can blossom and bloom.

Follow the activities in Boys Before Business to develop your dream relationship and act as if you have already met him.

What you think about, you bring about – so think about the relationship you want to build and share with him.  What would your mornings and weekends be like? How often would you talk each day? And what would you talk about?

Act as if you are already in it and the activities consistent with getting it.  When you do, it will be easier to find him, meet him and keep him.

Need more help getting ready for your dream relationship?

Schedule 60 minutes and listen to our free tele-workshop, complete with a free companion workbook.  It will help you take the First Steps to Having It All! Click Here now to enroll.

It has only been one week since we were in Arizona for our book signing and Girlie Chat, and guess what?  Boys Before Business already has TWO success stories from our event and book tour.  That’s how fast the first steps can work for you!.

After leaving the workshop at Saks Fifth Avenue one of the participants went home finished her Dear God Letter and met a man that seems to fit her list!

While reading the book and getting clear about what she wanted, another fan went out on a date with a co-worker that turned into another date and another and then he asked her to be exclusive.  She said, “the book works!”

Here’s what other attendees have said:

“The principles I learned at the Girlie Chat are applicable to many areas of my life and I can’t wait to get started.”

“What I learned will take my business and personal life to the next level.  I haven’t been this excited in a long time.  I feel I have the tools I need to succeed.

“This concept can revolutionize the way direct sellers build their business”

It truly is your time to have it all!

Boys Before Business takes its live Girlie Chat workshop into Saks Fifth Avenue starting this month in New York City next week!

This is a very special event that requires a reservation, as this is one of those private events you’ve always wanted to attend.

We know and teach that it’s important to look and feel good – so we are working with Saks and Trish McEvoy to help you enjoy being and feeling beautiful.  That’s a big part of having it all!

Our first event is at the flagship Saks Fifth Avenue store in New York City on Thursday, January 28th, from 6:30 – 9:30pm.  To RSVP and join us, you must send an email to respond.  Here’s what to do:  send an email to info@boysbeforebusiness.com with subject line: COUNT ME IN AT SAKS! and include your full name and the full name of other guests you will be bringing with you.  You must respond no later than Friday, January 22nd, to get on the private guest list.

If you are in Phoenix, AZ, join us for Valentine’s Day at the Saks in Phoenix at the Biltmore Hotel.  We will be working with Saks to have a fabulous Valentine’s Day celebration and look forward to welcoming you there.

And… a Big Announcement!! Our Dream Boys will be with us in Arizona!!  Meet Rob & David, the men of our dreams, who will be with us to celebrate Valentine’s Day.  Where else would they be but with us on Valentine’s Day??!!

We look forward to sharing the Boys Before Business Experience with you this year.

Check http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/events.html to see when we’ll be coming your city this year to celebrate the Boys Before Business philosophy with you.

It’s your time to have it all!

Starting a New Year is always exciting.  It is the time when you allow yourself to dream again. You make resolutions and goals and feel inspired.

Then after a week, reality sets in and it seems you are back to the grind.  Your dreams start to fade away as you get busy with daily activities. Before you know it, months have gone by and the inspiration and excitement you feel at the start of the New Year is gone.

Don’t let this happen to you!

Every day take two minutes to read your goals and visualize what achieving them feels like.  Think about the life you want to create.  Write down one action step you could do to help move you in the direction of your dreams.  In five minutes a day, you could feel that same inspiration and excitement.

Five minutes a day turns into 1,825 minutes which turns into 76 days!

Imagine what you can accomplish!

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Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right?

This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year.

Not sure it can really happen for you?
Not certain that you are ready for it?

This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him.

When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you.

You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business.

Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year.

You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year.

Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it all!

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Maybe you are one of those people who just can’t seem to get into the holiday spirit.  You would rather stay inside all day then take part of all the hoopla.  That is perfectly fine.  Just don’t stay home sulking, stay home and be productive.  Use this down time to journal and highlight your years successes.  Write down everything big and small.  Think about your favorite moments of the year, what were you doing?  See if you can find the activities that make you smile.  This is a great exercise to remind you of all the things you have accomplished.

This is also the perfect time to clean your closets and clean out the clutter in your house and make room for new clothes, new opportunities and a new man.  If you are holding on to anything of boyfriends past reflect on why you are holding on to the object then check in with yourself and see how you are feeling and decide to get rid of it.  New door usually only open when old doors close.  Go out and enjoy yourself or read a great romance novel, or go to a chick flick, they can help you visualize the type of relationship you really want.

Above all be yourself and do activities that would comfort your spirit.

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We have heard some great stories about how women have met the men of their dreams during the holiday season because they actually stopped working and started embracing the holiday activities in their area.

Here are some suggestions for how to get out and celebrate the holiday cheer while raising your spirits and looking for your Mr. Right:

1)      Join efforts to feed the hungry in your area. If you enjoy volunteering and if you have an interest in sharing the abundance you have with those less fortunate, donate your time and find activities in your area where you can feed the homeless, elderly, sick or those who can’t afford to provide a delicious meal for themselves and their loved ones this holiday season.  Check with your local food bank and other organizations for information and events.  You never know – you might just meet him while serving mashed potatoes at the soup kitchen while he serves up the turkey with all the trimmings.

2)      Pay attention to invitations to events from organizations and groups you belong to. Instead of passing on the holiday gatherings offered by organizations and networking groups you participate in, take time out to celebrate the season with those you’ve done business with.  Toast a year of great business success and see how your relationships here have served you well.  Take clues from them and put the qualities you enjoy in these relationships into your Dear God Letter to help you describe the one you want to build with the man of your dreams.

3)      Look for flyers and announcements about events and parties at your gym, club, yoga studio or other recreational center. Perhaps there are parties that are available to you as a member of your gym or other exercise clubs.  This is a terrific way to meet men who are also members and like the same activities you do.  Attending these parties can be fun!  You don’t have to stay long.  Grab a girlfriend and make it a great girls’ night out.  You might just meet men you’ve never seen at the gym…until now.

Find ways to get out of the office and out of the house and into the holiday season and spirit.  All work and no fun makes it harder to find him.  Pick one activity you love and go for it!

Your Mr. Right may walk right into your life and light up your holiday spirits this season – and beyond.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

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It feels like winter these days as the weather is colder and crisper.  It now gets darker earlier.  There is rain and sometimes snow and many people can go into a little bit of a funk during this time of the year.

It’s easy to stay inside curled up on the nice, warm couch in your sweat pants and read a good book.  It’s also easy to blow off your regular workout when it’s too cold to go outside.

Sometimes this time of the year brings about stress as you look back on the year, review your successes and dust off that New Year’s resolution list from the beginning of the year.  For some, it is a reminder of what we didn’t do.  For others, it is a time to be excited about what the New Year brings.

Here are some things you can do to get out and get going:

1)       Get Moving – The cure for anything is to get into action and get moving.  Use the cold weather as a time to take a workout class indoors.

2)      Read A Good Book – Instead of staying home and reading a good book, go to your local bookstore, grab a cup of coffee and cozy up there.

3)      Play In the Snow – Plan a weekend ski get-a-away and embrace the snow.

4)      Cheer Indoors – Go to an indoor sporting event or concert.

Whatever you do don’t use the cold weather as an excuse to stay home.  Instead get your creative juices flowing and find fun things to do.

You just might find Mr. Right while you’re out in the cold.  Then you can stay in and snuggle up on the nice, warm couch—together.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

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