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Dating can be fun, delightful and enjoyable – and it should be at all times whether you are single and dating or whether you are in a relationship or married. Even if you have found that love you’ve sought or have been married for years, dating is still a large part of the equation to keep your relationship and marriage fresh and fun.

When you’re single, dating can feel like a full-time job. It’s like finding the right job where you can feel happy and free and you know your philosophies are in alignment so you can express yourself and use your talents to their fullest.

This builds your self-esteem in business and affords you the opportunity to contribute to something bigger and greater. The experience is the same when it comes to finding the right person to date and be your mate.

If you are in a relationship or married, it is important to remember the art of dating and make it a priority. For many, dating can be something that you have either forgotten how to do or perhaps that you do once a week or less often as a “date night”.

Men and women often have different ideas about dating and what constitutes “dating”. Each person may have their own perception of what a date is and isn’t and what they are looking to accomplish during the time they spend with someone else.

Do you want a date or a mate?

In other words, are you really looking to simply go out, have a good time, enjoy yourself and the time you spend with someone in the moment? That’s a great date! You enjoy the time you spend preparing, pampering yourself and getting ready for the “big date”, then you burst with joy when you meet him, and go with the flow of the plans you’ve made while smiling and savoring the pleasures of it all.

Or do you find yourself looking for a connection with the other person while you are dating as described above and enjoying the time you spend with him? Do you consider if you want to spend more time with him? Do you want to know more about him and what makes him tick? Or perhaps how your lives, values and lifestyles could possibly fit together? Perhaps you want to know what his goals and dreams are for the year or the next three, where he wants to travel to next, how he likes to celebrate his birthday, and how he treats and takes care of himself.

Be honest with yourself and ask yourself where you are in your dating life – whether you’re single or not.

If you’re in a relationship or married, when was the last time you and your sweetheart had a terrific date where you took the time to get dressed and pamper yourself before it, enjoyed being together without the fuss and stresses of life for a few hours, and laughed at the end saying, “That was great!”?

If you’re single, whether you’re dating online, being introduced to potential suitors by others, or simply connecting with people in your everyday travels in life, decide for yourself if you really want a date or if you want a mate.

Mating is different than dating because dating is part of the fun of mating that should never stop. The distinction is that when you mate, you continue to date the same person with as much enthusiasm, interest and joy as you did when you dated
other people.

If you have a mate, act like it is your first date and enjoy the fun of getting to know each other all over again.

“It’s your time to have it all!”

You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Sometimes, admittedly, it’s nice to be a single girl with a life all her own.

You get to use all the closets, dressers and space in your home the way you want to. You can TIVO whatever you want to watch later and never have to share the remote and television with a sports-aholic. There’s plenty of room for what you love to eat, wear and use.

So why bother with Mr. Right anyway?

Maybe your life is complete right now. Or is it?

How do you really feel when you see a couple romantically sneak a glance at one another, reach out to hold hands as they walk by you, or chit chat in that quiet seductive way over dinner or while waiting for the train?

Do you ever wonder how Mr. Right could really change your life?

Mr. Right is more than just someone who’s a guaranteed dance partner at a gala or someone to take the trash out.

He is the person who adores you – even when you’re blubbering with tears streaming down your beautiful face. He’s the guy who stays up with you all night when you feel sick.

He stands proudly by you, whispering “I love you” and “I’m so proud of you” at just the right moments.

He’s the man who when you see him, your heart really does skip a beat and you feel yourself just melting into his embrace and deep, loving kiss.

Yup! He’s the one that loves you unconditionally and lights up at the very sight of you and sound of you on the telephone.

A life without Mr. Right is like a life without romance…

A life without that very special feeling that only he can really bring about in you.

Think for a moment about what your life would be like with him.

Now take a look around yours.

With him, you can really have it all: the man you’ve dreamed of and the amazing professional career you love.

He really does exist – for every woman.

Not sure how to find him?

Let us show you how:  http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/membership.html

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

We hit the Dallas market by storm with two book signings and a live event at Saks Fifth Avenue with Trish McEvoy make-up artists bringing our the best in each of our guests.

Then it was Los Angeles for the DSWA National Convention.  We met so many amazing people and had a chance to teach people about how to discover what’s important for you and understand your core values then decide what you want by writing your Dear God Letter.

Knowing your values and what you want with boys and business lays the foundation for success.  Sounds easy but we often don’t take the time to actually sit down think about this let alone write it down.  By taking the time to write down your core values and their definitions and by writing down what you want, you have taken the first step in having it all.

If you don’t know how to determine your core values or what you want listen to our free teleworkshop that walks you through the process.  These two exercises will change your life dramatically and improve your relationships with boys and with your business http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

In May we are off to Miami, and later in this week we have an exciting announcement.

Finding Mr. Right while at the same time enjoying your career can sometimes seem like an impossible task. Most single women have wondered at one time or another “Can I have both, is possible to have it all?”

The good news is, yes you can have it all. The better news is, Boys Before Business has a proven system of success to help you.

Having it all just got easier. We are giving you a roadmap to success all you have to do is say yes to your journey and let us walk you through our steps. We know they work because they have worked for us and for other women. If you follow our system you can’t fail. So decide if you are going to take that leap of faith and do the work. Yes there is work. You will first prepare to meet the right man.

There are a number of components to preparing, everything from making time to cleaning our your closets and even understanding what you want. The next phase is building the relationship. This means learning how to communicate and compromise and gain more clarity.

Then the final phase is being a dream team together and applying all you have learned in your personal relationship to build a better career. Simple yes, not always easy, but definitely worth it!

If you are in Dallas then learn more on how our system can work for you by joining as at one of our three events April 23-25th.

• Friday Barnes and Noble at Lincoln Park at 6:00 pm
• Saturday Saks Fifth Avenue at the Dallas Galleria 10:00 am
• Sunday Barnes and Noble at Preston & Park Plana TX 3:00 pm

If you are not in Dallas start your Boys Before Journey by taking 60 minutes and listen to our teleworkshop designed to give you the first steps to having it all. http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/teleworkshop.html.

Look for us in a city near you. http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/events.html.

Have you ever heard someone suggest to you that the guy you’re dating is “good enough?”

Oftentimes we think that because we’ve found someone who is nice and can take care of us, we should just settle.  Even though we feel like companions more than a couple, at least we’ll have SOMEBODY.

Well!  We say why settle for Mr. Good Enough when you can find Mr. Right??

It’s actually a lot easier to find Mr. Right than to live a life with little to no romantic  spark.  We meet lots of women who say they’d rather be alone than to be bothered with Mr. Good Enough.  But if they really could find Mr. Right…they’d be interested.

We say finding Mr. Right is much easier when you put Boys Before Business.

Preparing yourself to meet him is the key to your success in finding him.

Know what is most important to you – yourself – before you start looking for the perfect match.  Identify and understand what you value most in relationships with others.  Think of the relationships in your life that you love and use these as models to discover what’s most important to you.  Is it Honesty?  Integrity?  Love?  Family? Achievement?

Figure out the essence of the relationships you love and then seek the man who shares these relationship ideals.  Then you’ll have what it takes to build that dream relationship with your dream man.

Knowing what’s important to you is one of the best first steps for meeting Mr. Right.

Finding him really is easier than you think – when you put Boys Before Business.

Want to find your Mr. Right?  Not sure what you value most?  Take 60 minutes and listen to our tele-workshop.  Click Here for details.

Schedule it and listen when it’s convenient for you. Take your first steps to finding Mr. Right right now. What are you waiting for?

We have heard some great stories about how women have met the men of their dreams during the holiday season because they actually stopped working and started embracing the holiday activities in their area.

Here are some suggestions for how to get out and celebrate the holiday cheer while raising your spirits and looking for your Mr. Right:

1)      Join efforts to feed the hungry in your area. If you enjoy volunteering and if you have an interest in sharing the abundance you have with those less fortunate, donate your time and find activities in your area where you can feed the homeless, elderly, sick or those who can’t afford to provide a delicious meal for themselves and their loved ones this holiday season.  Check with your local food bank and other organizations for information and events.  You never know – you might just meet him while serving mashed potatoes at the soup kitchen while he serves up the turkey with all the trimmings.

2)      Pay attention to invitations to events from organizations and groups you belong to. Instead of passing on the holiday gatherings offered by organizations and networking groups you participate in, take time out to celebrate the season with those you’ve done business with.  Toast a year of great business success and see how your relationships here have served you well.  Take clues from them and put the qualities you enjoy in these relationships into your Dear God Letter to help you describe the one you want to build with the man of your dreams.

3)      Look for flyers and announcements about events and parties at your gym, club, yoga studio or other recreational center. Perhaps there are parties that are available to you as a member of your gym or other exercise clubs.  This is a terrific way to meet men who are also members and like the same activities you do.  Attending these parties can be fun!  You don’t have to stay long.  Grab a girlfriend and make it a great girls’ night out.  You might just meet men you’ve never seen at the gym…until now.

Find ways to get out of the office and out of the house and into the holiday season and spirit.  All work and no fun makes it harder to find him.  Pick one activity you love and go for it!

Your Mr. Right may walk right into your life and light up your holiday spirits this season – and beyond.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

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Although you may not have found love in your romantic relationship yet, you may have cherished relationships with other people in your life: family, best friends, business colleagues and others.

There are probably some common qualities about these relationships that make them feel special, deep and wonderful.  Take a moment to think about what makes these different.  Why do they make you feel good?  When you have great news to share, who do you want to call first?  Why?

The qualities and characteristics of these important, trusted relationships are more than likely to be clues about what you’d like to experience in your romantic relationship with Mr. Right.  They can help you determine what’s valuable for you in a loving, supportive, fun and long-lasting relationship.

If you’ve been looking for Mr. Right and have continually settled for Mr. Not Quite Good Enough, take the time to recognize what factors contribute to a great relationship for you.  It’s different for everyone.  You have all the helpful hints you need, hidden right there in your other meaningful relationships.

Have you ever heard the quote: “Today is a gift, that’s why they call it the Present?”  We like to think that your present relationships are also gifts.

Use these gifts to discover the best path to Mr. Right for you.

After all, it’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

We all have had good relationships and bad ones.  Sometimes we keep dating the same guy over and over and wonder why we haven’t found love.

Take a look at the relationships you have that brought you happiness and write down a list of what worked best for you.  Look at the relationships that had your spinning and write down what didn’t work.  This is a good exercise to help you get clear about what you really want.

Review your list and then think about what you are grateful for when it comes to these relationships.  When you can look at each relationship, be objective and find what you are grateful for in each person.  Then you can start to understand why some of your relationships worked and others didn’t. Gratitude might be hard when you are thinking of the guy that broke your heart but really think about something good that came from the relationship.

The more you understand each relationship and your own patterns the easier it will be to find Mr. Right. Gratitude might be harder to feel when you are thinking of the guy that broke your heart, but really think about it.  Be grateful for the relationship you had and what you learned about yourself that you can now apply to the next relationship.

Sometimes the road to “happily ever after” is filled with a few bumps.  The more you learn from each relationship, the smoother your journey will be to finding the man of your dreams.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?