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Dating can be fun, delightful and enjoyable – and it should be at all times whether you are single and dating or whether you are in a relationship or married. Even if you have found that love you’ve sought or have been married for years, dating is still a large part of the equation to keep your relationship and marriage fresh and fun.

When you’re single, dating can feel like a full-time job. It’s like finding the right job where you can feel happy and free and you know your philosophies are in alignment so you can express yourself and use your talents to their fullest.

This builds your self-esteem in business and affords you the opportunity to contribute to something bigger and greater. The experience is the same when it comes to finding the right person to date and be your mate.

If you are in a relationship or married, it is important to remember the art of dating and make it a priority. For many, dating can be something that you have either forgotten how to do or perhaps that you do once a week or less often as a “date night”.

Men and women often have different ideas about dating and what constitutes “dating”. Each person may have their own perception of what a date is and isn’t and what they are looking to accomplish during the time they spend with someone else.

Do you want a date or a mate?

In other words, are you really looking to simply go out, have a good time, enjoy yourself and the time you spend with someone in the moment? That’s a great date! You enjoy the time you spend preparing, pampering yourself and getting ready for the “big date”, then you burst with joy when you meet him, and go with the flow of the plans you’ve made while smiling and savoring the pleasures of it all.

Or do you find yourself looking for a connection with the other person while you are dating as described above and enjoying the time you spend with him? Do you consider if you want to spend more time with him? Do you want to know more about him and what makes him tick? Or perhaps how your lives, values and lifestyles could possibly fit together? Perhaps you want to know what his goals and dreams are for the year or the next three, where he wants to travel to next, how he likes to celebrate his birthday, and how he treats and takes care of himself.

Be honest with yourself and ask yourself where you are in your dating life – whether you’re single or not.

If you’re in a relationship or married, when was the last time you and your sweetheart had a terrific date where you took the time to get dressed and pamper yourself before it, enjoyed being together without the fuss and stresses of life for a few hours, and laughed at the end saying, “That was great!”?

If you’re single, whether you’re dating online, being introduced to potential suitors by others, or simply connecting with people in your everyday travels in life, decide for yourself if you really want a date or if you want a mate.

Mating is different than dating because dating is part of the fun of mating that should never stop. The distinction is that when you mate, you continue to date the same person with as much enthusiasm, interest and joy as you did when you dated
other people.

If you have a mate, act like it is your first date and enjoy the fun of getting to know each other all over again.

“It’s your time to have it all!”

Is Yours the Greatest Love Story Ever? Tell Sandals your story and win a trip for two!

Boys Before Business is excited to announce that Sandals Resorts is giving away all-inclusive vacation packages to couples with the Greatest Love Story Ever! You and your Prince Charming can win an all-expenses paid trip for two!
The Royal Wedding is right around the corner, and Kate and Prince William’s story is a wonderful example of how a girl really can have it all! A few weeks ago, Boys Before Business wrote a blog entry about the importance of being open to receiving the man of your dreams and realizing that sometimes he doesn’t come in the package we expect him to. Do you remember reading it? This same thing has happened to Prince William and Kate! The press refers to Kate as a “commoner,” and she and her soon-to-be husband are breaking all of the old rules about whom a Prince should marry. Typically, a prince is supposed to marry someone from royalty, which Kate is not. But once again, true love can and does overcome everything. For Prince William, where his finance comes from is much less important than who she is and how he feels about her. Congratulations to them!

So tell us: Where did you meet your Prince Charming? Was his arrival a total surprise, or had you been planning for him? Has your relationship flowed easily, or did you have some bumps along the way? What were the challenges that the two of you had to successfully overcome, and how has your love been able to rise above these challenges? And finally, how have you been able to HAVE IT ALL?

Boys Before Business has had the pleasure of collaborating with Beaches Resorts By Sandals as curriculum trainers during their fun BFF Girls Getaway programs. We are excited to be visiting the Turks and Caicos resort in May and again in October. During those visits, we will be lounging in the sun, getting massages, and maybe even be taking a catamaran cruise! Of course, we will also be talking about strategies that will help you find and keep the man of your dreams.
We are excited to share the news with you about this great contest! Send in your entries, and don’t forget to include how you were able to find and keep the man of your dreams, and how Boys Before Business helped you do it! Good luck!

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In the 80’s, we all danced around to Huey Lewis & The News singing about whether we believe in love and about the power of love taking us back to the future. Remember that? Those were the days when we were carefree, loved our boys and probably weren’t thinking much about business.

These days, maybe the opposite is true: you spend more time thinking about business and less time believing in love.

We know. Sometimes it’s hard to believe that you can still find love, but we know it’s possible… as long as you want to.

Oftentimes in the conversations we have during our workshops around the country, we find that women have lost their belief in love and feel that it’s no longer something that they can experience in their lives.

Cher has a great quote that we love: “If grass can grow through cement, love can find you at every time in your life.”

You see, finding love starts with the belief that you can find it, find him and that you deserve to have it all: boys and business.

When you believe it, you’ll see it and see it manifest right before your eyes. When you open your heart, soul and spirit to love, inevitably you will attract it and by golly, love will find you.

By keeping your eye out for the man you feel is your Mr Right and by revising and refining your Dear God Letter as you meet different candidates to determine who’s really right for you, you just may find that Huey Lewis was right when he asked, “Do you believe in love? Do you believe it’s true?”

And then you’ll find that Huey and the boys summed it up perfectly when they sang:

“They say that all in love is fair/ Yeah, but you don’t care
But you know what to do/ When it gets hold of you
And with a little help from above/ You feel the power of love
Can you feel it?”

May 2011 be your year to embrace and celebrate the power of love… Sing it, Huey!

Need help figuring out who’s really right for you? Start with our free tele-workshop where in 60 minutes we’ll help you to identify what’s really important to you in a relationship and how to write your own Dear God Letter.

This is your year for happily ever after. You have decided. The question is, are you committed? To have it all you are going to have to be committed to taking action. Finding Mr. Right is possible but you must be willing to put in the time and effort. As we have said before, go find Prince Charming instead of waiting for him at the door.

Before we help you get ready for the love of your life, we want you first to get rid of your excuses.

Top Excuses For Not Finding Mr. Right

1) I don’t have any time.
2) All the good men are taken
3) I don’t want to have to give up my career
4) I don’t know where to meet him
5) I need to lose weight first

Girls, don’t let these excuses sidetrack you from having the life you want. You may be satisfied right now with life and maybe you were like us and thinking this is as good as it gets. No more status quo in 2011! It’s time. So what can you do?

Here’s how to start:

• Determine what you want. Know what you are looking for so when you find him, you keep him. Write your Dear God letter today.
• Decide what you will give up in order to get what you want. You might have to forego watching your favorite show to go out on a blind date or skip spending time on Facebook to go on Match.com. You might have to leave work on time to go to an event.
• Associate with people who will help you get what you want. Surround yourself with people who support you and tell them what type of person you are looking for.
• Have a plan and work your plan. Join a dating service, start taking a class, schedule time to put yourself in a position to meet the right person.

Next, believe it is possible. You need to be excited about your life in love! Tom Barret says, “It is time to dust off your hope. Dust off your belief. Dust off your confidence. Dust off your determination. And it’s time to Dust off your dreams.”

Why?

Because you are either going to dust them off or cast them off. That choice will impact the direction and quality of your life for years to come.

It’s your time to have it all!

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Need help figuring out who’s really right for you? Start with our free tele-workshop where in 60 minutes we’ll help you to identify what’s really important to you in a relationship and how to write your own Dear God Letter.

As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “What we seek we shall find…”

When looking for Mr. Right or that right business relationship, keep in mind that you will eventually get what you are looking for. What’s most important is to be clear about what it is exactly that you are seeking.

We know that when you look for something in particular, you are seeking certain qualities and characteristics so your awareness of these traits is raised. You are more sensitive to them so you will readily pick them out when you see them.

Here’s a simple exercise to play with for a moment to understand what we mean: the next time you are in a crowded room with lots of people or you are going to a mall to shop, focus on just finding the people who are wearing red. Chances are, you will start seeing a whole bunch of people wearing red-because that’s what you are looking for and focusing on.

The interesting thing that occurs for many women is that we tend to look for a man with good looks instead of looking for a man who will love us and who we can love.

As we like to say: Don’t look for the man you can live with; look for the man you can’t live without.

Looking for a man who is tall, dark and handsome may preclude you from seeing and meeting the man you really could fall madly in love with. We know this firsthand and can attest to the benefits of looking for the qualities and traits of the man and relationship you want to have, instead of just looking for good looks alone.

In business, getting clear about the types of people you want to work with and the qualities and characteristics they possess is similar to seeking the man of your dreams. The process is the same. Using tools like the Dear God Letter are the same to clarify what you want in the professional relationships you are seeking.

The more you seek, the more you shall find.

So take the time to make the effort to clarify who it is you really want to be with. Then seek him out and build the life of your dreams with the man you love.

“It’s your time to have it all!”

Need help figuring out who’s really right for you? Start with our free tele-workshop where in 60 minutes we’ll help you to identify what’s really important to you in a relationship and how to write your own Dear God Letter.

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Remember that popular scene in the movie, Jerry Maguire, when Tom Cruise’s character, Jerry, says that famous line to Renee Zellweger’s character, Dorothy,  “You…complete me,” and so many of our hearts melted as we heard it?

We’d like to hit the pause button on the DVD or BlueRay player and suggest that you take a moment to think about this:

Before you venture out to find Mr. Right, be complete with yourself.

As the new year rolls in, make a commitment to be complete with past relationships you’ve long abandoned, past jobs you’ve left behind and all the people who weren’t really supportive of you in your quest to find the right man for you. Close these out once and for all so you can regain the energy that any thoughts and feelings about these have been draining in your life.

Sweep out the old to make room for the right and bright new ones.

Now, get clear, really clear, about who your dream man is and what career you really love. Understand what is most important to you. Be certain. Be confident. Be complete with both: boys and business.

Then actively seek the life you say you want. Write it down. Use the Dear God Letter to prioritize what you absolutely must have to make it right. Make a point of reading through it every day.

Keep in mind: What you think about, you bring about.

By keeping these details at the top of your mind, you’ll tend to focus on finding what you desire, instead of what you don’t.

So when you finally say that famous follow-up line like Dorothy did in Jerry Maguire, you can say it with confidence because you know you are complete. You know what you really want. You’ll recognize him in an instant and then you’ll hear yourself say:

“You had me at hello.”

It’s your time to have it all!

Need help figuring out what’s really right for you? Start with our free tele-workshop where in 60 minutes we’ll help you to identify what’s really important to you in a relationship and how to write your own Dear God Letter.

How can another year have passed and you still haven’t met the love of your life? You might be thinking you can’t have it all and maybe you’re thinking you are just going to be satisfied with your life the way it is right now. Stop your stinkin’ thinking! There is no reason to settle for status quo when you can have it all!

There are some things you can do right now to get ready for the life of your dreams in 2011. Our new newlywed, Shawn, started her search for Mr. Right by cleaning out her closets and making room for him. That’s right, out with the old so the new can walk in. Now is the perfect time to throw out anything that you haven’t worn or used in the last year and it’s the perfect time to donate what you don’t want, to charity.

Give your home and office a once over and create environments that support your goals.

Next, decide what you want, what you truly want. One of the biggest things that can hold you back from everlasting love is you not being clear about the type of person you want to attract or what you are seeking as the next phase in your professional life. Take time to write your list of who and what you want. Use www.deargodletter.com/bbb to make it easy and fun.

Surround yourself with a visual representation of what you want in your life. Create the vision board you promised yourself you would. Gather your girlfriends together and have a vision board party. We offer a simple kit that includes everything each of you will need to complete yours. Play music, have fun and really celebrate what’s next for you. To get the kits for your party, see our BBB vision board.

As the year comes to a close, write down all of your successes for the year. Commit to doing the BBB work to find your true love in the new year and toast yourself because you are on your way to having it all!

It’s your time to have it all!

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You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

As a professional, you know how important business relationships are.

At Boys Before Business, we know relationships are at the heart of every business’s success. Let’s be honest: we never really do anything alone.

On Thursday , September 2nd, from 10am – 12 noon, join us and Constant Contact for a workshop at SFSU in San Francisco for this timely topic.    

At Boys Before Business, we believe that when you build better relationships, you build a better business and ultimately a better life.

Find out how to apply the principles of BBB to your business relationships and then learn  why Constant Contact is a great tool for continually communicating with your connections. After all, when you stay in “constant contact,” you deepen your relationships and do business better.

Join us at SFSU by indicating your RSVP for this free event here: http://www.constantcontact.com/local/sfbayarea/events.jsp?trumbaEmbed=view%3Devent%26eventid%3D90357455

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Ali Fedotowsky did it! She put Boys Before Business in front of a national television audience and it paid off. Big Time!

She focused on finding her true love – and find him she did.

Now we can’t wait to watch Ali’s career soar as a result of her rockin’ romance with Roberto.

Meanwhile, on Sunday, Patti Stanger stood strong with her Must Have Traits and called off her engagement with long time boyfriend, Andy Friedman. She wants to have children, she said in People.com’s Sunday article, that’s a dealbreaker for her.

We applaud Patti’s decision to stick to the traits that are most important to her in her relationship.

We wish her much happiness as she seeks her real Mr. Right.

Reminder: now is a great time for Patti to review and revise her Dear God Letter. Is it time to revise yours?

It’s Your Time to Have It All!