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Remember that popular scene in the movie, Jerry Maguire, when Tom Cruise’s character, Jerry, says that famous line to Renee Zellweger’s character, Dorothy,  “You…complete me,” and so many of our hearts melted as we heard it?

We’d like to hit the pause button on the DVD or BlueRay player and suggest that you take a moment to think about this:

Before you venture out to find Mr. Right, be complete with yourself.

As the new year rolls in, make a commitment to be complete with past relationships you’ve long abandoned, past jobs you’ve left behind and all the people who weren’t really supportive of you in your quest to find the right man for you. Close these out once and for all so you can regain the energy that any thoughts and feelings about these have been draining in your life.

Sweep out the old to make room for the right and bright new ones.

Now, get clear, really clear, about who your dream man is and what career you really love. Understand what is most important to you. Be certain. Be confident. Be complete with both: boys and business.

Then actively seek the life you say you want. Write it down. Use the Dear God Letter to prioritize what you absolutely must have to make it right. Make a point of reading through it every day.

Keep in mind: What you think about, you bring about.

By keeping these details at the top of your mind, you’ll tend to focus on finding what you desire, instead of what you don’t.

So when you finally say that famous follow-up line like Dorothy did in Jerry Maguire, you can say it with confidence because you know you are complete. You know what you really want. You’ll recognize him in an instant and then you’ll hear yourself say:

“You had me at hello.”

It’s your time to have it all!

Need help figuring out what’s really right for you? Start with our free tele-workshop where in 60 minutes we’ll help you to identify what’s really important to you in a relationship and how to write your own Dear God Letter.

You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Ever hear those stories about women who just meet someone in a parking lot, in line at the bookstore or online and they just click and fall in love?  So often we hear from these women that they just let go of the idea of what Mr. Right looked like and what he had to be like for them and turned their focus on themselves.

All of those ideas you have about the perfect guy for you – his looks, occupation and everything you decided would be just perfect for you – we suggest you let go of them.  If you think of the tall, dark and handsome guy, you may just miss the Mr. Right for you who isn’t tall, has light or no hair and is still handsome nonetheless.

Focus on the relationship you want to have and who you want to be in it.  What will you and your man be doing?  Where will you travel?  What romantic getaway will you be running away to for the weekend?  Will you be hiking in the mountains or swimming in the ocean?  What kind of restaurant will you be toasting in as you celebrate your romance?

Too often when we are looking for Mr. Right, we concentrate so heavily on what he’s going to be like that we get attached to him before we’ve even met him and forget what we’re going be like when we meet him.

Perhaps by holding fast to an ideal look for your Mr. Right, maybe you’ve been sheltering yourself from the real relationship you say you want.  Check this out in your own world.  When you make something so perfect that it’s seemingly impossible to find, you may use this as a mechanism to protect yourself from getting what you say you really want.

In fact, for some women, actually finding Mr. Right is a shocking thought because … what if he really does exist?  What will happen to the lifestyle you know now and perhaps love?

Let go of all the preconceived notions you have about him and how he’ll affect your life.

Enjoy the journey of finding out who you want to be in the relationship you’ve dreamed of.

Set yourself up for the successful relationship you want by getting clear about you and what you want.

Know that you can have it all – the fabulous career and the great romance.

And just let go.

Isn’t now your time to have it all?

Join us for our FREE monthly Girlie Chat and decide if you are ready for love, lust and long term romance.  We will talk about how you can prepare yourself for the man of your dreams, learn who is Mr. Right for you and how to balance love and career and have it all.

July 8th
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If you are already a member of our network, Club BBB, keep following the weekly lessons and keep active in Club BBB by listening to the monthly Girlie Chats.  These calls are designed to help you leverage the weekly lessons you’ve received to put you in the perfect position and place to meet him.

If your not a member but know you are ready to meet him, let us help you each week so you know what to do to find him, meet him and keep him. Join Club BBB and get in a supportive community of women who are doing the same thing: meeting and marrying the man of their dreams.

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Make this summer your time to have it all and all about finding your Prince Charming.
He’s out there. We know. You just have to be ready and then clarify what he’s all about and sure enough, you’ll find him.Let us show you how.
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It’s your time to have it all,
Kim and Jen

What does it take to meet the “One?”  We asked ourselves this for many years, and now we have the answers.  It starts with You.  You have to be ready to meet him and ready to have an amazing relationship.

We thought we were ready.  In fact, for years we wondered why we were we still single.  Why hadn’t we met the man of our dreams? After all we had been waiting and wanting forever.  We felt we had been ready for years.  But were we?

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Chances are you have been dreaming of a loved one for a long time and you had a picture in your head of exactly what you wanted.

Even as teenagers we thought about what it would be like to be in love forever.  Everyone remembers their first love and the loss you felt when you broke up.  You wondered if you were ever going to find a true love.

Good news, you can absolutely meet the man of your dreams.

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You can if you are ready.  More good news…we can help you not only get ready for your Prince Charming, we can show you how to meet him and build a solid relationship all while continuing to strive in your career.

We designed an INCREDIBLE program to guide you every step of the way on your journey.  We have the system for success.

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Imagine getting the blueprint for Having It All.  All you have do is start.  What are you waiting for?  Chances are he is right around the corner.  How do we know?  We followed the system for success and are now both in our IDEAL relationships.

You can be too.  Find out how to get ready and elevate your life and love to new heights.  It’s worth it.

“Being in a fulfilling relationship is everything I wanted and more. Everything is better when you have the love and support of someone you are building a life with.” Kim

“”After getting divorced, I wasn’t even sure what a great relationship was.  Now I know and enjoy having it all with the man of my dreams,”

Join us as we show you how we did it and how others have succeeded. Be one of the first 100 and receive special bonuses. See for yourself.

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It’s Your Time to Have It All,

Kim and Jen

You can have a great life

You can have a great love

When you decide what you want and

Put your relationship first

Years ago, Betty Friedan wrote about the single girl and the more than 21,000,000 women that were still looking for Mr. Right.  Some were married, most were not.  They all dreamed of living the “happily ever after” life filled with Prince Charming, a career they loved and enjoying the balance that they felt continuously eluded them.

But the question remains: does this fairy tale exist? 

And if it does how do you get it? 

Stop the presses because we have cracked the code for this age old quest for the quintessential life women everywhere want.  What’s the secret?  The secret is simple, you put your relationship first and make it a priority.

Welcome to the Boys Before Business blog where our mission is to coach women on how to have the life they want. 

We believe that every woman can have it all – the man of her dreams and the dream career.  This delicate balance of life’s greatest pleasures is possible when you put “Boys Before Business”.

Imagine a life filled with fun, excitement, romance, passion, financial stability, recognition and happiness.  Dream big.  We’ll teach you how to love your life.

“It’s Your Time to Have It All”