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You’ve heard it often and so have we: distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Based on our respective experiences, we’ve discovered this doesn’t always hold true – and we know why.

Relationships have four dimensions that work together to make a connection with someone else fulfilling. They are:

Intellectual

Physical

Intellectually, relationships that are long distance can fulfill this dimension through great telephone chats, emails, IMs and exchanges of information. Admiration, stimulation and love can grow in this dimension quite easily because they are centered in what you know, understand and want to share with each other. The impact of distance on this dimension is low.

Emotionally, distance can introduce some, well, distance. When one person experiences upset, frustration, fear, sadness  we want the support that sometimes only a loved one can give with hugs, kisses, hand holding, back rubbing and eye contact that reassure, comfort and remind us of the loving support right beside us. These physical gestures that provide emotional support are not possible at a distance. One could argue that talking could be emotionally supportive, and we are not discounting that. But sometimes, there are just no words. Likewise, when you are happy, get great news and have something to celebrate, you want to share these highly emotional moments with the one you love too. Emotional engagement comes from a combination of the senses of sight, sound and touch. The impact of distance on this dimension is high.

Spiritually, distance can be a nuisance but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Celebrations of holidays and a shared sense of values are all part of a couple’s spiritual life. Oftentimes but not always, couples with the same faith find spirituality an easily shared dimension because each person has grown up with similar spiritual experiences and heritage. It’s not about any one religion or necessarily about being of the same religion. It’s more focused on an openness to spirituality and interests each person has in sharing experiences in this dimension. It is rooted in respecting and supporting the spiritual fulfillment for each other. This makes for a greater relationship with more depth. The impact of distance on this dimension is medium.

Physically, distance can be difficult. The only way to deal with this dimension is to be diligent about dissolving the distance. To reach out and touch someone, without saying a word, is an irreplaceable connection. It says “I Love You” on a whole different level. Touch is a great experience for us as human beings and is an integral part of a loving, sustainable relationship. Without physical contact and presence, a relationship at a distance is doomed.

The key here is consistent contact. We feel that relationships that include in person physical contact monthly work best. Any longer than this and the distance may begin to drain the relationship.  What works even better is to decide and agree on what the longest amount of time will be for you to be apart.  It might be 10 days or two weeks.  The key is to agree as a team what is going to work for both of you.

There is also one additional aspect of physical relationships: scheduling and setting expectations. When you know when you’re going to see each other again, there is a deeper commitment to the relationship because expectations of being together are fulfilled. When there are no dates set to see each other, doubts can be cast on true commitment to the relationship. The impact of distance on this dimension is critically high.

There is one more area in long distance relationships that we feel compelled to mention that support their ultimate success. In every relationship, finances play a role. In terms of a long distance relationship, money must be considered as flying to visit one another so you can be together and grow together is a real factor for your overall success.

We suggest that you discuss financially how your long distance relationship will be supported. If you don’t, you just might find yourself stuck between your desire to be together and your dwindling dollars to support yourself and your relationship.

A relationship with someone is where we tend to grow the most as people. We find out more about ourselves and each other as a result. We learn about life through sharing it with each other.

Relationships are also a responsibility. They come with commitments, expectations, emotions and experiences you can only have when you have the courage to engage in them.

The bottomline on long distance relationships: plan to be with each other at regular intervals, the more often the better, with the intention of dissolving the distance permanently. Make sure financially you are well-positioned to support it.

We are certain that by following these simple strategies, you can find the man of your dreams and overcome the inherent challenges faced in a long distance relationship.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

From Kim Mylls, Co-Creator of Boys Before Business

There were ten of us in a circle on the last day of a week long Jack Canfield event one summer not too long ago.

Jen and I looked across the circle and something clicked.  I liked what she said. She liked what I was saying, so much so that mid-sentence Jen blurted out, “I’d like you to be my accountability partner.”  I said yes instantly, not even knowing what she wanted in a partner.

What happened that week changed everything for me and our partnership was the icing on the cake.  Together we wrote a book and are now on a mission to empower millions of women.  The book has been just the beginning.

The results of that week were beyond any of my expectations.  Here’s the short list of what happened:

• I met the man of my dreams shortly after that event. Three months later we were engaged and nine months later we were married
• I fulfilled a life long dream of writing a book
• I created another business with a person I met at the event
• I improved every relationship in my life
• I used the same tools and techniques in my everyday business and was able to teach and train and inspire my team to reach their goals

What are your dreams?  Have you given up on them?

What haven’t you been able to achieve on your own?

What’s stopping you?

Who is in your circle of influence?  Are you spending time with people who lift you up or bring you down?

If you are serious about achieving your dreams, you have to go to this event.

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Of the 400 people who were there, I stay personally connected with more than 100. Each of them have done things that they never thought possible and have made their lives extraordinary.  I know I can reach out to any one of them at any time and get the support I need.  Now that is powerful!

Do what you can to go to this event.  Make any sacrifices you have to so you can attend. This week will change your life for the better.  It was the best investment I could make for both my personal and professional life.

You are worth it and you deserve to have it all!

Sometimes, admittedly, it’s nice to be a single girl with a life all her own.

You get to use all the closets, dressers and space in your home the way you want to. You can TIVO whatever you want to watch later and never have to share the remote and television with a sports-aholic. There’s plenty of room for what you love to eat, wear and use.

So why bother with Mr. Right anyway?

Maybe your life is complete right now. Or is it?

How do you really feel when you see a couple romantically sneak a glance at one another, reach out to hold hands as they walk by you, or chit chat in that quiet seductive way over dinner or while waiting for the train?

Do you ever wonder how Mr. Right could really change your life?

Mr. Right is more than just someone who’s a guaranteed dance partner at a gala or someone to take the trash out.

He is the person who adores you – even when you’re blubbering with tears streaming down your beautiful face. He’s the guy who stays up with you all night when you feel sick.

He stands proudly by you, whispering “I love you” and “I’m so proud of you” at just the right moments.

He’s the man who when you see him, your heart really does skip a beat and you feel yourself just melting into his embrace and deep, loving kiss.

Yup! He’s the one that loves you unconditionally and lights up at the very sight of you and sound of you on the telephone.

A life without Mr. Right is like a life without romance…

A life without that very special feeling that only he can really bring about in you.

Think for a moment about what your life would be like with him.

Now take a look around yours.

With him, you can really have it all: the man you’ve dreamed of and the amazing professional career you love.

He really does exist – for every woman.

Not sure how to find him?

Let us show you how:  http://www.boysbeforebusiness.com/membership.html

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

Have you ever heard someone suggest to you that the guy you’re dating is “good enough?”

Oftentimes we think that because we’ve found someone who is nice and can take care of us, we should just settle.  Even though we feel like companions more than a couple, at least we’ll have SOMEBODY.

Well!  We say why settle for Mr. Good Enough when you can find Mr. Right??

It’s actually a lot easier to find Mr. Right than to live a life with little to no romantic  spark.  We meet lots of women who say they’d rather be alone than to be bothered with Mr. Good Enough.  But if they really could find Mr. Right…they’d be interested.

We say finding Mr. Right is much easier when you put Boys Before Business.

Preparing yourself to meet him is the key to your success in finding him.

Know what is most important to you – yourself – before you start looking for the perfect match.  Identify and understand what you value most in relationships with others.  Think of the relationships in your life that you love and use these as models to discover what’s most important to you.  Is it Honesty?  Integrity?  Love?  Family? Achievement?

Figure out the essence of the relationships you love and then seek the man who shares these relationship ideals.  Then you’ll have what it takes to build that dream relationship with your dream man.

Knowing what’s important to you is one of the best first steps for meeting Mr. Right.

Finding him really is easier than you think – when you put Boys Before Business.

Want to find your Mr. Right?  Not sure what you value most?  Take 60 minutes and listen to our tele-workshop.  Click Here for details.

Schedule it and listen when it’s convenient for you. Take your first steps to finding Mr. Right right now. What are you waiting for?

Are you tired of the bar scene?  Do you keep seeing the same men on line?  Have you run out of ideas where to meet him? Or maybe you’ve caught on to the “Cougar” craze these days.

If you live in the San Francisco Bay Area, you are in luck.  The Society of Single Professionals is hosting one of their famous Dance Parties and Boys Before Business is going to be there!

Start the night with a special women-only seminar with BBB and learn how to attract the one you want.  Then enjoy a fun night of mingling and dancing at the Poplar Creek Grill at Coyote Point Golf Course.  1700 Coyote Pt. Drive San Mateo, CA 94401.

This will be a great event where you will be able to meet like-minded women who share your goal of meeting the man of your dreams and there will be lots of men… so the possibilities are abundant.

For more information go to www.ThePartyHotline.com or to www.boysbeforebusiness.com/events.  See you at 7:30 pm!

We have heard some great stories about how women have met the men of their dreams during the holiday season because they actually stopped working and started embracing the holiday activities in their area.

Here are some suggestions for how to get out and celebrate the holiday cheer while raising your spirits and looking for your Mr. Right:

1)      Join efforts to feed the hungry in your area. If you enjoy volunteering and if you have an interest in sharing the abundance you have with those less fortunate, donate your time and find activities in your area where you can feed the homeless, elderly, sick or those who can’t afford to provide a delicious meal for themselves and their loved ones this holiday season.  Check with your local food bank and other organizations for information and events.  You never know – you might just meet him while serving mashed potatoes at the soup kitchen while he serves up the turkey with all the trimmings.

2)      Pay attention to invitations to events from organizations and groups you belong to. Instead of passing on the holiday gatherings offered by organizations and networking groups you participate in, take time out to celebrate the season with those you’ve done business with.  Toast a year of great business success and see how your relationships here have served you well.  Take clues from them and put the qualities you enjoy in these relationships into your Dear God Letter to help you describe the one you want to build with the man of your dreams.

3)      Look for flyers and announcements about events and parties at your gym, club, yoga studio or other recreational center. Perhaps there are parties that are available to you as a member of your gym or other exercise clubs.  This is a terrific way to meet men who are also members and like the same activities you do.  Attending these parties can be fun!  You don’t have to stay long.  Grab a girlfriend and make it a great girls’ night out.  You might just meet men you’ve never seen at the gym…until now.

Find ways to get out of the office and out of the house and into the holiday season and spirit.  All work and no fun makes it harder to find him.  Pick one activity you love and go for it!

Your Mr. Right may walk right into your life and light up your holiday spirits this season – and beyond.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

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It feels like winter these days as the weather is colder and crisper.  It now gets darker earlier.  There is rain and sometimes snow and many people can go into a little bit of a funk during this time of the year.

It’s easy to stay inside curled up on the nice, warm couch in your sweat pants and read a good book.  It’s also easy to blow off your regular workout when it’s too cold to go outside.

Sometimes this time of the year brings about stress as you look back on the year, review your successes and dust off that New Year’s resolution list from the beginning of the year.  For some, it is a reminder of what we didn’t do.  For others, it is a time to be excited about what the New Year brings.

Here are some things you can do to get out and get going:

1)       Get Moving – The cure for anything is to get into action and get moving.  Use the cold weather as a time to take a workout class indoors.

2)      Read A Good Book – Instead of staying home and reading a good book, go to your local bookstore, grab a cup of coffee and cozy up there.

3)      Play In the Snow – Plan a weekend ski get-a-away and embrace the snow.

4)      Cheer Indoors – Go to an indoor sporting event or concert.

Whatever you do don’t use the cold weather as an excuse to stay home.  Instead get your creative juices flowing and find fun things to do.

You just might find Mr. Right while you’re out in the cold.  Then you can stay in and snuggle up on the nice, warm couch—together.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

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After Thanksgiving, the holiday spirit really kicks up a notch.  Couples are more visible – at parties, out shopping in the stores and going from family to friends to office holiday parties.  If you are one of those who want to be in a couple but aren’t yet, take a few hints this season from the happy couples you see.

What is it about them that you admire?  Are they affectionate?  Do you like the way they communicate and laugh with one another?  Maybe it’s the way they hold hands or how he’s always the gentleman who opens the door for her and offers a hand to help her out of the car?

When you hear yourself say: “I wish I had someone like that who was with me,” write down whatever it is that strikes a chord with you.  This is a great insight into what kind of relationship you desire.  These little details make a big difference for the couple you are noticing – and also in the relationship that you want to build.

Think about the small stuff that makes a difference for you.  What makes you feel supported?  What makes you feel loved?  What provides you with that inner feeling of being appreciated?  Write these all down as you can identify them.  This is the information you’ll want to share with your Mr. Right when you meet him.  These are the exact pieces of the puzzle that make it easy for him to be Mr. Right.

Make your wish list and believe in it.  This is your season to have your dream come true.

It’s your time to have it all!

Although you may not have found love in your romantic relationship yet, you may have cherished relationships with other people in your life: family, best friends, business colleagues and others.

There are probably some common qualities about these relationships that make them feel special, deep and wonderful.  Take a moment to think about what makes these different.  Why do they make you feel good?  When you have great news to share, who do you want to call first?  Why?

The qualities and characteristics of these important, trusted relationships are more than likely to be clues about what you’d like to experience in your romantic relationship with Mr. Right.  They can help you determine what’s valuable for you in a loving, supportive, fun and long-lasting relationship.

If you’ve been looking for Mr. Right and have continually settled for Mr. Not Quite Good Enough, take the time to recognize what factors contribute to a great relationship for you.  It’s different for everyone.  You have all the helpful hints you need, hidden right there in your other meaningful relationships.

Have you ever heard the quote: “Today is a gift, that’s why they call it the Present?”  We like to think that your present relationships are also gifts.

Use these gifts to discover the best path to Mr. Right for you.

After all, it’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

The thought of dating can be an overwhelming idea.

You know you want to meet the man of your dreams but where are you going to go to find someone who matches your core values and interests?  Sometimes it just seems easier to hang with your friends then bother with finding Mr. Right.  What if looking for Prince Charming really was easy and fun and it was worth the effort?

What would you be willing to do to get what you want?

To have it all, you will need to do some ground work so why not make it fun!  Start by taking that class that you have always been wanting to, join a new club or go to some place new.  Make finding him an adventure.  Create a list of all the things you have been saying you want  to do and start checking them off your list.  Journal about your adventures. And while you’re doing all the things on your “bucket” list, you just might find him.