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We all have had good relationships and bad ones.  Sometimes we keep dating the same guy over and over and wonder why we haven’t found love.

Take a look at the relationships you have that brought you happiness and write down a list of what worked best for you.  Look at the relationships that had your spinning and write down what didn’t work.  This is a good exercise to help you get clear about what you really want.

Review your list and then think about what you are grateful for when it comes to these relationships.  When you can look at each relationship, be objective and find what you are grateful for in each person.  Then you can start to understand why some of your relationships worked and others didn’t. Gratitude might be hard when you are thinking of the guy that broke your heart but really think about something good that came from the relationship.

The more you understand each relationship and your own patterns the easier it will be to find Mr. Right. Gratitude might be harder to feel when you are thinking of the guy that broke your heart, but really think about it.  Be grateful for the relationship you had and what you learned about yourself that you can now apply to the next relationship.

Sometimes the road to “happily ever after” is filled with a few bumps.  The more you learn from each relationship, the smoother your journey will be to finding the man of your dreams.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

This week’s TIME magazine features a cover article about a new TIME poll that shows why American women are more powerful but less happy.

Here are some excerpts of the article so you can see why we created BBB:

1)      “It’s expected that by the end of the year, for the first time in history the majority of workers in the U.S. will be women.”

2)      “Their buying power has never been greater—and their choices have seldom been harder.”

3)      “Among the most confounding changes of all is the evidence, tracked by numerous surveys, that as women have gained more freedom, more education and more economic power, they have become less happy.”

In a follow-up Viewpoint piece by Maria Shriver in the same issue of the magazine, she finds, “You hear a lot about the search for a “balanced life.”  More and more women say that if they could, they’d like to leave companies that are unresponsive and start their own businesses. … In fact, the number of women working for themselves doubled from 1979 to 2003, so that women make up 35% of all self-employed people.”

As Maria Shriver’s mother, Eunice Kennedy Shriver, has said in her message to women, which is repeated in the article by Maria, it is worth heeding: “Don’t let society tame you or contain you.”

We know that many of these women are still single, never finding that so-called balance of love and career.  We’ve met so many women who learned over and over again to choose career and to make sure they could take care of themselves, yet they continually found themselves alone.

We created Boys Before Business because we saw in ourselves what we saw in so many other women: a woman who wanted to have it all – a career and profession she loved and a man to share her life and success with.  We were you – we were that woman who had it all except someone to share it with.

We are that woman that Maria Shriver talks about – who left Corporate America companies and forged out on our own with businesses we believed in.

We created Boys Before Business in particular to serve our women colleagues like you so you too can enjoy the balance and joy of having it all – the great career and the romantic love of a lifetime with your Prince Charming.

It’s your time to have it all, isn’t it?

As the seasons change, take time to think about your past relationships.  People come into your life for seasons, reasons and for lifetimes.

Notice if there is a common denominator and highlight all the positive aspects of each relationship.

Finding Mr. Right is possible when you let go of boyfriends past and take action to meet someone new.

Take that leap of faith and break down any wall you might have built to protect you from getting hurt.  In the journey to find love, you have to put yourself out there and believe you can find him.

As we get older, we sometimes forget to let our guard down so we can let someone walk in.  If you want that happily ever after and true love, then you must be ready and willing to accept it.

You never know if the next person you meet is for a season or a reason, or if he’s the one for a lifetime.

“It’s Your Time to Have It All!”

Kim and Jen

We know that many of you are looking for ways to balance your busy professional life with finding the relationship you want.  Chances are you have been meaning to listen to some of the great calls we provide through Boys Before Business but the timing never seems to be right.

We know how hard it is to fit everything into a busy day and sometimes our BBB schedule doesn’t match yours. We understand and are still committed to helping you have it all.

To help you balance your time and still get the benefit of our information we’ve designed a great resource for you that is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, that you can now schedule into your calendar at your convenience.

In just 60 minutes, you can listen to our tele-workshop about taking “The First Steps to Having It All” where we walk you through a free workbook of exercises to jump-start your journey to finding your Prince Charming while you sustain and grow your great career.

This valuable resource provides insights for how to find, meet and keep the man of your dreams using the Boys Before Business philosophy AND it also shows you how to use these same principles to enhance and grow your business relationships too. Imagine gaining easy-to-use strategies to simplify building relationships that will enrich your personal and professional life.

We’ve put it all together for you in these 60 minutes. Now all you have to do is schedule time in your calendar to listen and learn. It’s a snap! Take your first steps to having it all now — and schedule your time to take the tele-workshop today.

“It’s Your Time to Have It All!”

Kim and Jen

How many times have we been focused on our career only to go home and wish we had someone besides our friends to share our success?

Imagine what it would be like to go home to a supportive loving man and share your day and your triumphs.  It sounds almost too good to be true.  But it’s possible.

When you’re in the right relationship the support and encouragement you get from the man of your dreams can actually fuel your fire and inspire you at work.  We have seen this happen time and time again.  Everything we teach in our book and in our weekly lessons on how to find the man of your dreams also applies to building an even greater career.

Putting people and relationships first might be controversial for some but think about it…when you put your personal relationship first you develop a level of confidence and security so at work you don’t have any personal distractions.

Do the same thing with your colleagues, clients and customers. Put those professional relationships first while you are at work and you will see people will enjoy working with you more and they will feel the same confidence and security you feel in your personal relationship and chances are you will develop more professional loyalty.

So you haven’t found him yet?
Are you thinking there is no use and all the good men are taken?
Are you wondering if it is possible to really have it all?

It is possible and we promise all the good men are not taken there is someone out there for you.  To find him, get back to basics.

Start by reviewing your Dear God Letter and make sure you are crystal clear about what you want.

Next, make sure you have a vision of what your ideal relationship looks like and feels like.  Describe to yourself what it will be like to be with the man you have described.

Believe it is possible and take action by going to new places, meeting new people, telling people who you are looking for.

Make sure your environments support what you want and make sure you have room for him – at home and at work.

Then simply detach.

We know it sounds like a contradiction: focus, focus, focus then detach.  What we mean by detach is be grateful for what you have in your life now, let go of what you want and trust that the Universe will help you.  It might not be in your exact time frame but trust you can Have it All.

Keep thinking about what you are intending to create for your romantic life.  It will happen.  It did for us and it can for you!

When you look at your calendar, home and activities this week and especially for this weekend, what’s the biggest priority you see?

Remember at the beginning of the year when you said that this was it – this was your year to meet the man of your dreams and have a real loving and supportive relationship?

Take an inventory of what you’ve been doing and the actions you’ve been taking to find him.

Have you:

·             Identified and defined your core values

·             Written your Dear God Letter and clearly articulated your Must Have, Would Like and Dream Traits

·             Told family and friends you are ready to be introduced to the men who match your Dear God Letter

·             Changed your activity schedule to workout when more men are at the gym or taking yoga or pilates classes

·             Set up your profile with the dating service of your choice on or offline and shared your Dear God Letter traits with them

If you haven’t been prioritizing your quest for a relationship or feel as though perhaps you thought you were prioritizing this but have found that you’re really not, now is the best time to re-evaluate, make some new choices and take different actions to make the romantic relationship you want a priority.

As we like to say, put Boys Before Business – even before you get the boy.  By putting the activities and actions around finding your dream man first, you’ll begin practicing the Boys Before Business philosophy before you meet him.  This will serve you well in the long run so you can make adjustments to your schedule now and experience the magic putting Boys Before Business creates.

If one of your greatest dreams and life experiences is to have a great romantic relationship, reprioritize your activities and put your relationship first.

You’ll get great results and discover that now really is your time to have it all!

All of the tools you have been using to find the man of your dreams can be used to have your dream career.  Write a Dear God Letter for your dream job or write one for what you want to change in your current professional life.  Get really clear about what you want.  Visualize it daily.  At the same time, clean up your office environment.  Make room for new opportunities.  The techniques you are using to find your dream man can also be used to find your dream client or dream business partner.

Boys Before Business is about putting your relationship first.  You can follow this same philosophy in business.  Put your work relationships first.  Make sure you connect with your clients and colleagues.  Keep your communication clear and stay focused on your vision.  When you go to new places to find your man, use your adventures as an opportunity to meet new people for your business as well.

As summer winds down, you may be starting to get the feeling that it’s too late – too late to take that much needed time off, too late to rearrange your home and make those adjustments to your office that you planned to do while it was quieter during the summer, and even too late for Love.

Perhaps this is one of the big obstacles you continually find in your way – that feeling of it’s always “too late.”

We beg to differ!  In fact, it’s never too late – especially for Love.  Life is a journey, you’ve heard this before.  So is Love…it’s a journey too.  Everything you experience in the relationships you have contribute to your understanding and creation of the romantic relationship you really want to have and enjoy.

So what if you can count the number of relationships you’ve had on more than two hands!  It’s not a contest or a race.  It’s really about learning what the right relationship is for you – and who your Prince Charming really is.

To know, you’ve gotta get out there.  To get out there with a head-start, it’s easier to know what you don’t want, because of what you’ve experienced before.  Have you heard yourself say, “I don’t want to date that kind of man again,” or “I don’t want to go through that again.”

We suggest as a better head-start, focus your attention on what you do want.  Turn those “don’ts” into what you do want him to do, be and share with you.  Dream of the relationship you’ve always want to have.  Make this the time in your life when you are ready.

It’s never too late for Love.

It’s just a matter of timing.

And we know… it’s your time to have it all.

Knowing your values will help you find your man faster. Maybe this is something you’ve never done before, never been asked about and quite frankly don’t know where to begin.  Start by identifying the top 5 qualities you value most.  Not sure how to identify these?  Look around at your relationships and your life. What’s makes these relationships so important to you?  These relationships and feelings will give you clues about what you value most. Some examples would be loyalty, honesty, community, contribution, health, love, the environment, creativity and whatever vaule you feel is important.

When you meet him, you can show him your list of values and ask him to share his with you.  Keep in mind that this may be the first time anyone has ever asked him about this, so be patient and thoughtful with how you respond to his comments and questions.

If this is the first time you’re discovering these for yourself, share your experience with him and let him know how valuable it is to know this about yourself.

Understanding what’s most important to each of you in a relationship can provide a solid foundation on which to build the relationship you want with your man.  When you have similar values, you’ll find that it’s easier to relate with one another because what’s important is important to both of you.

Now you know one of the big secrets behind determining whether he’s Mr. Right Now or Mr. Right.