Here’s the story of two single girls who went out on a date with Tom…
You know when you meet someone and it seems like you have known them forever.
You know they are going to be an important person in your life. We both felt that we should partner in someway.
It started as more of a business type of relationship, then as we talked daily our relationship bloomed and just from a casual remark we decided to write a book.
We met at a week long Jack Canfield seminar with over 400 people. Throughout the course of the week, there were exercises you did with partners and different group events. Near the end of the week, we were in a group exercise and at the end of the exercise, Jen looked across the circle and said to Kim, “Let’s be business accountability partners.” Kim agreed and it all started that day.
To be honest, Kim didn’t even know what an accountability partner was, but she knew that she had a feeling that something good would come of the partnership.
We started talking daily, Monday through Friday, for 15 minutes.
The idea was, we were going to share our daily goals and be accountable.
We started as a quick discussion of strictly business goals. It then turned into a longer discussion of health and happiness goals. Having an accountability partner made us both do more and achieve more.
As we started to learn more about each other, we realized both of us wanted one thing more than all the other goals. We both wanted fulfilling romantic relationships.
We started talking about our past relationships and our current pursuits.
We shared our trials and tribulations and realized that dating is pretty much the same for everyone.
We decided that together we were going to find the men of our dreams. No shortcuts, no settling. We were going to have it all. We believed that two heads were better than one and together we could find the men of our dreams.
We talked about what mistakes we felt we made in past relationships and what we wanted in a new long term relationship. We got really clear about our own values and what we wanted. We even wrote what we call Dear God Letters to ask God for guidance, support and help in finding a significant other. We wanted the Universe to help us.
As we chatted about our dating lives, coincidently one night we both had dates with guys named Tom.
Kim had met her Tom on an airplane and Jen had met her Tom because he was a partner in the moving company that helped her move. We talked on the phone before our dates and figured out what to wear and talked about how excited we were.
We agreed to recap in the morning, seeing as we had a three hour time difference. By the time Kim would be getting home, chances were good that Jen would be fast asleep after her date.
As Kim was five minutes away from being picked up, she got a text from Jen.
The text was short but not so sweet. It said: “He’s married.”
Kim had no time to react as her date rang the door.
Sneaking off to the bathroom at dinner, Kim texted back: “You OK?”
Jen replied: “It’s OK.” Kim went back to her date, figuring that she would chat with Jen first thing in the morning.
By the time we talked in the morning, it was afternoon for Jen.
She had already started her day, so when Jen picked up the phone, work was on her mind-not boys.
Jen started talking about something amazing that just happened to her business, and although Kim was excited for her, the first thing out of her mouth was: “Wait a second…Boys Before Business.”
Later that day, both of us were thinking: “what a great title for a book.” We talked about how this could really be the key to a successful relationship: putting your relationship first. It was somewhat of an “ah ha” moment for both of us. So we decided that this was the missing piece that alluded us and we were determined that in the next relationship, we would practice this. We would make the men in our lives a priority.
Sure enough we both met the men of our dreams and practice this philosophy daily with the men we love…Neither of whose name is Tom.