Archive for December, 2010

Remember that popular scene in the movie, Jerry Maguire, when Tom Cruise’s character, Jerry, says that famous line to Renee Zellweger’s character, Dorothy,  “You…complete me,” and so many of our hearts melted as we heard it?

We’d like to hit the pause button on the DVD or BlueRay player and suggest that you take a moment to think about this:

Before you venture out to find Mr. Right, be complete with yourself.

As the new year rolls in, make a commitment to be complete with past relationships you’ve long abandoned, past jobs you’ve left behind and all the people who weren’t really supportive of you in your quest to find the right man for you. Close these out once and for all so you can regain the energy that any thoughts and feelings about these have been draining in your life.

Sweep out the old to make room for the right and bright new ones.

Now, get clear, really clear, about who your dream man is and what career you really love. Understand what is most important to you. Be certain. Be confident. Be complete with both: boys and business.

Then actively seek the life you say you want. Write it down. Use the Dear God Letter to prioritize what you absolutely must have to make it right. Make a point of reading through it every day.

Keep in mind: What you think about, you bring about.

By keeping these details at the top of your mind, you’ll tend to focus on finding what you desire, instead of what you don’t.

So when you finally say that famous follow-up line like Dorothy did in Jerry Maguire, you can say it with confidence because you know you are complete. You know what you really want. You’ll recognize him in an instant and then you’ll hear yourself say:

“You had me at hello.”

It’s your time to have it all!

Need help figuring out what’s really right for you? Start with our free tele-workshop where in 60 minutes we’ll help you to identify what’s really important to you in a relationship and how to write your own Dear God Letter.

How can another year have passed and you still haven’t met the love of your life? You might be thinking you can’t have it all and maybe you’re thinking you are just going to be satisfied with your life the way it is right now. Stop your stinkin’ thinking! There is no reason to settle for status quo when you can have it all!

There are some things you can do right now to get ready for the life of your dreams in 2011. Our new newlywed, Shawn, started her search for Mr. Right by cleaning out her closets and making room for him. That’s right, out with the old so the new can walk in. Now is the perfect time to throw out anything that you haven’t worn or used in the last year and it’s the perfect time to donate what you don’t want, to charity.

Give your home and office a once over and create environments that support your goals.

Next, decide what you want, what you truly want. One of the biggest things that can hold you back from everlasting love is you not being clear about the type of person you want to attract or what you are seeking as the next phase in your professional life. Take time to write your list of who and what you want. Use www.deargodletter.com/bbb to make it easy and fun.

Surround yourself with a visual representation of what you want in your life. Create the vision board you promised yourself you would. Gather your girlfriends together and have a vision board party. We offer a simple kit that includes everything each of you will need to complete yours. Play music, have fun and really celebrate what’s next for you. To get the kits for your party, see our BBB vision board.

As the year comes to a close, write down all of your successes for the year. Commit to doing the BBB work to find your true love in the new year and toast yourself because you are on your way to having it all!

It’s your time to have it all!

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This is a time of year that can be filled with joy and happiness or filled with stress. Holidays can mean so many different things for different people. For many, this is a cherished time spent with family and friends and a time to give thanks for all the blessings in our lives. For others, the pressures of the holiday season make our stress levels rise and it is sometimes difficult to find the joy and happiness when what is foremost on our thoughts is: Why am I still alone?

The best solution for holiday blues or stress is to come from a place of gratitude. Start by making a list of all the people you are grateful for in your life. Then add to the list the things you are grateful for in your life. Share with the people on your list your thoughts and feelings and let them know how much they are appreciated.

When you come from a place of gratitude and are able to fully appreciate what you DO have in your life, you will find it’s a powerful way to let go of what could have, or should have been. Being in a state of appreciation is the same as being in abundance. Your focus is on what you do have and you always get more of what you focus on.

Having awareness of everything you do have in your life and by showing appreciation, you can start to attract the right people into your life. Relationships can actually be energized simply by showing appreciation.

During this time of year, keep your focus and gratitude on what you do have instead of thinking about what you don’t have. Fill your calendar with fun events with people you care about and keep your mindset on what you do want.

It’s your time to have it all!

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As the holidays begin to creep up on everyone, you may be dreading another season alone and being the “single girl” around the holiday tables.

We encourage you to do a little pre-year-end review of the relationships you’ve had so you can really get clear about the one you want to have now.

As you look back on each one, identify first what you liked, what you enjoyed doing and your favorite, favorite parts of it. These are probably the qualities you’d like to repeat in a new relationship. Next, think about what you didn’t enjoy and experiences you wouldn’t want to live through again.

You see, past relationships leave clues so you can clarify the characteristics you’d like to have in the next one.

Maybe you’ve heard the expression, “I keep creating the same relationship with each new guy.” Well, we’re here to tell you…you don’t have to!

What you have to do to stop the cycle of choosing the same guy or creating the same relationship is reflect on the past, get clear about what you experienced, understand what you liked and what you want to change…and then keep what you liked and make new choices about the man you want to be with and the qualities you want to have in your new relationship.

We also recommend updating your Dear God Letter once you’ve completed your review. This is the best way to solidify your new choices so you can write them down.

Every relationship you have gives you more information about you.

Consider looking at your other relationships for clues too – family, friends and business colleagues. What are the qualities you like about these? Maybe you’ve even seen a pattern in these relationships where you have changed them over the years.

Take time now to visit your past relationships and take a good look at the clues you find.

We know when you do, your dream relationship will be that much closer and your holidays will be even brighter.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!