Archive for July, 2010

Much has happened with “The Bachelorette,” Ali Fedotowsky, since our last article about her and her quest to find the man of her dreams.

In episodes 5 and 6, Ali continued to talk about her fear of not being loved back.

Isn’t this truly every woman’s fear? That she’ll put her whole heart into a relationship, allow herself to be vulnerable (maybe for the first time ever) and then boom! She won’t feel loved or supported in the relationship she invests in.

During episode 6, Justin fulfilled Ali’s greatest fear when it was revealed to her that not only did he already have a girlfriend – and a second one on the side – but he was using Ali and the show to raise his own visibility to further his own career and interest in getting into acting. Funny enough, his own girlfriend was the one that outted him.

Any woman would be devastated by this situation – and many women have been. Like Ali, they have lost their faith in men and have doubts that Mr. Right could really exist.

For Ali, the way Justin handled the news of her discovery when she confronted him with this made the situation even worse.

We give Ali a lot of credit as she winds her way through the variety of experiences women face when they truly want to find the dream man that they can really build an amazing life with.

To her credit, Ali opened her heart back up during this same episode during her date with Ty and made it possible for her to fall in love again instead of just rejecting the other guys because of her experience with Justin.

At the end of episode 6, Ali talked again about her fears with Frank and about not being able to control who falls in love with her and who she falls in love with. Frank even talked about being cautious himself and why he’s still single at 30. He said that he himself hasn’t settled and that he only wants to get married once.

That’s all rather odd coming from Frank who did receive a rose and went on to welcome Ali to his hometown in episode 8 where she met his family along with meetings Roberto’s, Kirk’s and Chris’s families too. The reason it’s all odd about Frank is because in the coming attractions for episode 9, it is revealed that Frank is actually still in love with his ex-girlfriend who wants him back and says she wants him to “come home.”

Instead of jumping eagerly on a plane promptly to go to Tahiti to meet Ali for the next round of “The Bachelorette” with her, Frank heads off to his ex-girlfriend’s apartment in his hometown of Chicago to figure out his own feelings before he takes the next steps with Ali.

As women, we have to give Ali credit. She’s living through many of the fears we go through when seeking the man of our dreams. Some women give up after a while, throw in the towel and turn to their computers and careers instead and figure if love really does exist for them, it will find them while they are living their lives and fulfilling their other dreams.

Not Ali. Even in the face of men continuing to profess their interest in being the man of her dreams while having girlfriends on the side and her taking the steps to travel to meet each man left standing in their own hometowns along with their families, Ali is still standing strong and remains committed to taking the steps needed to find the real man of
her dreams.

We want to know what’s holding you back from finding yours. Answer our poll this month and tell us what scares you most about finding your own Mr. Right. Click here to
answer the poll: http://bit.ly/aoTUIo.

We’ll keep watching Ali as she heads off to Tahiti with her big heart and possibly for a big heartbreak from Frank.

As she continues on her journey to meet her man and make her dreams come true, we know that she’ll reap the rewards she deserves of getting the boy and building the business she’s dreamed of.

It’s Your Time to Have It All!

We are very proud to present a new inspirational short movie called “The One Flaw in Women.” It has been produced as a tribute to women around the world and is brought to you with the hope that it might brighten your day and do the same for the important women in your life.

We are honored to be affiliated with the movie and feel privileged to contribute content to their website.

Women are a beautiful and integral part of our lives.  They are strong, courageous, caring, sensual, loving and hold a special place in our hearts. Women are why we wrote our book.

Yet even though they impress us with who they are, there is still one flaw that all women have.

Today, I invite you to gift yourself and the women in your life a few moments to feel inspired and uplifted.

So sit back, turn up your speakers and enjoy! Just click this link to watch this 3 minute movie now: http://www.TheOneFlawInWomen.com/movie/1884

Thank You.

Jen and Kim

P.S. This movie is a gift and shall be shared as such. Please “Pass It On” by sharing this powerful experience with the most important women in your life.

Finding the right man can be scary.  You have built a life for yourself and you are happy and the thought of change can be scary.  Doubt can creep into your mind quickly raising questions about what if it doesn’t work out.  Again think of your language, and start thinking about what if it DOES work out.

Sometimes it seems easier to go it alone, why bother at all with finding Mr. Right.  Finding him might mean you might have to compromise, change your schedule, open up, take a risk and what if you waste your time and he’s not the one?

If you have been single for awhile chances are you are content.  You have built a life that suits you and you are happy so why rock the boat.  Why take the chance at possible heartache and what if you spend all this time with someone who turns out to be Mr. Wrong, then you have wasted valuable time.

Instead of thinking about all the things that scare you, go back to when you were a little girl and think about how you envisioned your life and your relationships.  Did you picture your life holding hands with the man of your dreams, traveling to exotic place, growing old and swinging on the front porch?  All those dreams are still possible.  It’s up to you to believe in them again and take action.

Tell us what scares you the most about finding the man of your dreams in this weeks poll http://bit.ly/aoTUIo

Are you scared because…

1) It might not work out & I wasted my time
2) Your lifestyle will have to change
3) You are set in your ways
4) You’re afraid of making a mistake
5) You’ll have to compromise