Archive for September, 2009

How many times have we been focused on our career only to go home and wish we had someone besides our friends to share our success?

Imagine what it would be like to go home to a supportive loving man and share your day and your triumphs.  It sounds almost too good to be true.  But it’s possible.

When you’re in the right relationship the support and encouragement you get from the man of your dreams can actually fuel your fire and inspire you at work.  We have seen this happen time and time again.  Everything we teach in our book and in our weekly lessons on how to find the man of your dreams also applies to building an even greater career.

Putting people and relationships first might be controversial for some but think about it…when you put your personal relationship first you develop a level of confidence and security so at work you don’t have any personal distractions.

Do the same thing with your colleagues, clients and customers. Put those professional relationships first while you are at work and you will see people will enjoy working with you more and they will feel the same confidence and security you feel in your personal relationship and chances are you will develop more professional loyalty.

So you haven’t found him yet?
Are you thinking there is no use and all the good men are taken?
Are you wondering if it is possible to really have it all?

It is possible and we promise all the good men are not taken there is someone out there for you.  To find him, get back to basics.

Start by reviewing your Dear God Letter and make sure you are crystal clear about what you want.

Next, make sure you have a vision of what your ideal relationship looks like and feels like.  Describe to yourself what it will be like to be with the man you have described.

Believe it is possible and take action by going to new places, meeting new people, telling people who you are looking for.

Make sure your environments support what you want and make sure you have room for him – at home and at work.

Then simply detach.

We know it sounds like a contradiction: focus, focus, focus then detach.  What we mean by detach is be grateful for what you have in your life now, let go of what you want and trust that the Universe will help you.  It might not be in your exact time frame but trust you can Have it All.

Keep thinking about what you are intending to create for your romantic life.  It will happen.  It did for us and it can for you!

It’s Fashion Week!

Are you inspired by the latest fashion and are madly trying to lose weight to fit into what’s out there?

Fashion can be fun but at times it can be frustrating.

Oftentimes, while we look at the models on the runway, we start to compare ourselves to them.

The best way to enjoy fashion is to decide what you like and what looks good on you.   It is not about looking like a model. It’s about wearing a style that brings out your confidence.

Oftentimes we buy things in the hope that it will look good when we lose a few pounds.  This is crazy. It’s more rewarding to be with a man who loves you for who you are.

You can actually look like a model.  What you can learn from Fashion Week is the way the models strut.  They walk with confidence and that is sexy.  And guess what? You can strut too and look just like a model.

What men find most captivating is a woman with self-confidence.  It’s this ability to believe in oneself that is alluring, attractive and intriguing.  When we have this, any woman can strut like a model and engage the attention of men everywhere.

The fashion that fits is the one that brings forth this inner confidence so you too can act like a model in every area of your life and live the life you love.

It’s your time to have it all!

Every year at the holiday season, do you find yourself “the single girl” at the holiday parties amidst others in couples?  Wondering how many more parties you’ll be invited to where you show up as “the single girl” with or without a date?

Maybe this year we can help resolve the catch-22 of being too busy to find the man of your dreams because of your career and finding yourself all alone again with no one beside you at holiday parties and friendly gatherings of good cheer.

You still have time this Fall to find and meet the man of your dreams while working and building your amazing career.

What if you could finish the year strong in both business and your personal romantic life?  Think it can’t be done?  We know.  We were you.  Year after year, holiday after holiday all throughout the Fall.

From Halloween parties and hayrides to Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and the New Year, stop hugging the wall this year and start finding the man of your dreams to hug instead.

It’s easier when you put “Boys Before Business.”

You’re still not too late to find him this year.

Use these 5 simple tips to get you started:

1) Make a list of the top 10 traits that you’d like in a mate.
State these in positive statements.  Use “he does,” “he likes,”,
“I like it when he…,” or “he will” statements.

2) Next, look at your calendar.  When will you make time in your
busy schedule for him?

3) Now, decide if you are willing to put “Boys Before Business”
and if you are ready to meet the man of your dreams.

4) Put forth the energy, the belief and the faith that you too can still
find him this year.

5) Believe it’s possible for you to meet him.

Regardless of what others think or say, it’s your time to have it all!

Sometimes we make excuses to ourselves as we search for our own Prince Charming and “have it all” lifestyle.

We say to ourselves: I need to work out more first; I want to change jobs; or even, asking ourselves: “Who’s going to be dating during this economy?”

It’s interesting, isn’t it? How we put out reasons why it’s just not possible for us to find and meet him.

We want to give you reasons why now is always the perfect time to find him – bad economy or not.

The truth is most people – men and women – want to meet that special someone to share their love and lives with.

Oftentimes, we are the ones who count ourselves or others out by making up and disqualifying any chance of us meeting him.

We’ll grab on to any excuse.  All we’re really doing is putting off that which we said we wanted.

Believe it, there are a bunch of reasons why it’s totally possible for you to find and meet him in any economy.

Think about it:  Some of the longest marriages you might know of may have gotten their start during the Depression era, one of the worst economies the U.S. has ever experienced.

In fact, my grandparents on both sides met during the Depression era.

On my Dad’s side, they met when my grandfather barely had $5 back then.  On my Mom’s side, my grandfather had about $35.

They were both happily married for over 60 years to the woman they loved and fell in love with during one of the most challenging economic times we’ve seen in the U.S.

You see, you can find, meet and keep him in any situation, circumstance or condition – or economy.

If they could do it then, we can do it now.

As the cliché goes:  Love really does conquer all.

It’s your time to have it all!