Archive for August, 2009

When you look at your calendar, home and activities this week and especially for this weekend, what’s the biggest priority you see?

Remember at the beginning of the year when you said that this was it – this was your year to meet the man of your dreams and have a real loving and supportive relationship?

Take an inventory of what you’ve been doing and the actions you’ve been taking to find him.

Have you:

·             Identified and defined your core values

·             Written your Dear God Letter and clearly articulated your Must Have, Would Like and Dream Traits

·             Told family and friends you are ready to be introduced to the men who match your Dear God Letter

·             Changed your activity schedule to workout when more men are at the gym or taking yoga or pilates classes

·             Set up your profile with the dating service of your choice on or offline and shared your Dear God Letter traits with them

If you haven’t been prioritizing your quest for a relationship or feel as though perhaps you thought you were prioritizing this but have found that you’re really not, now is the best time to re-evaluate, make some new choices and take different actions to make the romantic relationship you want a priority.

As we like to say, put Boys Before Business – even before you get the boy.  By putting the activities and actions around finding your dream man first, you’ll begin practicing the Boys Before Business philosophy before you meet him.  This will serve you well in the long run so you can make adjustments to your schedule now and experience the magic putting Boys Before Business creates.

If one of your greatest dreams and life experiences is to have a great romantic relationship, reprioritize your activities and put your relationship first.

You’ll get great results and discover that now really is your time to have it all!

All of the tools you have been using to find the man of your dreams can be used to have your dream career.  Write a Dear God Letter for your dream job or write one for what you want to change in your current professional life.  Get really clear about what you want.  Visualize it daily.  At the same time, clean up your office environment.  Make room for new opportunities.  The techniques you are using to find your dream man can also be used to find your dream client or dream business partner.

Boys Before Business is about putting your relationship first.  You can follow this same philosophy in business.  Put your work relationships first.  Make sure you connect with your clients and colleagues.  Keep your communication clear and stay focused on your vision.  When you go to new places to find your man, use your adventures as an opportunity to meet new people for your business as well.

As summer winds down, you may be starting to get the feeling that it’s too late – too late to take that much needed time off, too late to rearrange your home and make those adjustments to your office that you planned to do while it was quieter during the summer, and even too late for Love.

Perhaps this is one of the big obstacles you continually find in your way – that feeling of it’s always “too late.”

We beg to differ!  In fact, it’s never too late – especially for Love.  Life is a journey, you’ve heard this before.  So is Love…it’s a journey too.  Everything you experience in the relationships you have contribute to your understanding and creation of the romantic relationship you really want to have and enjoy.

So what if you can count the number of relationships you’ve had on more than two hands!  It’s not a contest or a race.  It’s really about learning what the right relationship is for you – and who your Prince Charming really is.

To know, you’ve gotta get out there.  To get out there with a head-start, it’s easier to know what you don’t want, because of what you’ve experienced before.  Have you heard yourself say, “I don’t want to date that kind of man again,” or “I don’t want to go through that again.”

We suggest as a better head-start, focus your attention on what you do want.  Turn those “don’ts” into what you do want him to do, be and share with you.  Dream of the relationship you’ve always want to have.  Make this the time in your life when you are ready.

It’s never too late for Love.

It’s just a matter of timing.

And we know… it’s your time to have it all.

Summer’s almost over.  If you still haven’t met him, there are still fun ways to find him and insightful ways to prepare yourself to meet him.

Finding him is a process.  Look at the people you’ve met.  What did you like about them?  And what would you rather change?

Evaluate each relationship and make this part of your process.  Observe and chat with couples you admire.  If you know them, talk with them about what makes their relationship great.  Whether you know them or not, notice what they do, how they interact with each other and identify what you seem attracted to in their relationship.

Are these qualities in your Dear God Letter?  What about in your vision you’ve been writing about?

Take 5 minutes each day to read your letter and visualize the relationship you want to be a part of.  This process helps you get clearer and clearer so when he does show up, you can recognize him almost instantly.  You can also describe clearly the relationship you want build with him.

Do your best to not compare yourself to other people in their relationships.  Instead, focus on you and compare yourself to how much you have grown from the last relationship and what you have learned from your own experiences.

Be honest with yourself: determine if you are moving forward or making the same mistakes.  If you find that you are re-creating the same relationship, it just may be time to do something different.

To find the right person, you have to make finding him a priority and put Boys Before Business.  It will take time and effort – and when you do, it will take you right into the arms of the man of your dreams.